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  • Prison, Pain and Purpose - Sam's Path to Recovery

    Prison, Pain and Purpose - Sam's Path to Recovery
    Dec 21 2024
    My guest this week is Sam Lander who hit rock bottom when she was sent to prison. In this episode:- Sam's first drink was in 7th grade and her first drug use (weed) in 8th grade.From there she progressed to heavy substance use, including GHB, cocaine, and meth.She was blackout drinking and using drugs to alter her state of mind.Despite her addiction, she was high functioning – she was a varsity athlete, spinning instructor, and held down various jobs.Her turning point was certainly a dramatic one – a SWAT Raid of her home which led to a 27 month prison sentenceEven in prison she didn’t get cleanEventually Sam accepted that her life was unmanageable and went to rehabShe describes her rehab experience as liberating - experiencing joy and laughter again!.She was sober for 13 years but then had a relapse due to struggles with motherhood, marriage and isolationSam was drinking a bottle of gin a day throughout CovidAs her addiction got worse she lost some people close to her and she finally realised what was blocking her recoveryShe wasn’t doing the work and realised that she was lacking the humility she neededSams relapse after 13 years is such a warning sign to those of us that have clocked up years of sobriety – if we still see alcohol as a way to relieve our struggles then we are at riskThe key is to develop alternative coping mechanism so that we don’t go to our default and seek a way to numb out from our problemsThese days Sam has clocked up more than a year of sobriety, focusing on daily gratitude and service workShe is now a Health Coach and helps women to address their health:- Gut healthHormone imbalances andStress management She combines nutrition, functional lab testing, and personalized programs.She also encourages clean eating, proper supplementation, and weightlifting for sustainable health.She had some advice:- For those struggling: Be vulnerable and admit you need help – there is no shame in seeking support.First-year sobriety struggles: Address gut health, nutrient deficiencies, and underlying issues.For those having sugar cravings: Use natural alternatives like honey, maple syrup, and balanced meals.Her take on exercise is that its key: Start slow, prioritize weightlifting, and integrate daily movement like walking.Sam Offers free health clarity calls to assess needs and recommend lab tests.Contact her via Instagram @seefitliving More Info Tribe Sober membership – you can join up HERE. To access our website, click HERE.If you would like a free copy of our “Annual Tracker” or our e-book 66 Days to Sobriety, please email janet@tribesober.com.If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community, just email janet@tribesober.com. Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program. If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today Read more about our program and subscribe here Bootcamp on Demand To kickstart your alcohol free life check out our Bootcamp on Demand here Help us to Spread the Word! We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help. Please subscribe and share. If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts. Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We’ll send you something special to say thank you! We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning. You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram. You can join our private Facebook group HERE. PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device) Open the Podcasts app. EASY.Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Tribe Sober) into the search field.Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes).Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews.Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).
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    37 mins
  • Tribe Sober Bali Retreat - Oct 20-27 - invitation from Host Helene

    Tribe Sober Bali Retreat - Oct 20-27 - invitation from Host Helene
    Dec 18 2024

    You can read more about our Bali Retreat via this link
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    1 min
  • Alex finds Claritée

    Alex finds Claritée
    Dec 14 2024
    This weeks guest who is Alex Clapp – Alcohol took Alex to a very dark place but now he’s 2 years sober and running alcohol free events! In this episode:- Alex started drinking heavily as a teenager within a culture that normalized binge drinking.Like many of us he developed a career in a "work hard, play hard" culture, where drinking was integral to fitting inAlex was drinking heavily anyway but when he was faced with a serious health challenge it ramped up furtherHe experienced significant eye health issues leading to partial blindnessBattling with a combination of problematic drinking and depression Alex was beginning to feel suicidalThankfully his 16 year old son turned this mindset around when he expressed a heartfelt need for his fatherAlex went to rehab 3 times – an interesting process…First time he treated it as a “break” to prove to himself that he wasn’t an alcohol – a bit like many of us do with Dry JanuarySecond time he did some deeper work but then made the mistake of thinking that he had “fixed” his inner problem and would be able to drink normally!Third time it stuck when he finally accepted that he had crossed the line into dependence and would never be able to moderate!Alex spoke of the importance of vulnerability, which is not so easy for men who have often been raised to hide their emotions and fix everything!We agreed on the importance of getting comfortable with being uncomfortable which enables us to create alternative coping mechanisms.We also spoke of the importance of having a project in sobriety and Alex has created Claritee, an organization promoting alcohol-free events for corporate and public settings.Alex believes that his events are challenging social norms and will provide people with alternative choices for fun and connectionYou can see some beautiful photo of sober people having fun on Alex website which is https://www.clariteegroup.co.uk/ - I’ll put a link in the shownotesAlex advocates giving back to the community through volunteering and helping charitiesWe agreed that donating to a charity actually lights up the same pathways in our brain that alcohol did!So on that basis here is a plug for our Annual Fundraiser which helps underprivileged children here in South AfricaJust donate whatever you an afford and in addition to getting a buzz you’ll get online and community support for 30 days of your choosing – any 30 day window that suits you between now and the end of Feb More Info Tribe Sober membership – you can join up HERE. To access our website, click HERE.If you would like a free copy of our “Annual Tracker” or our e-book 66 Days to Sobriety, please email janet@tribesober.com.If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community, just email janet@tribesober.com. Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program. If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today Read more about our program and subscribe here Bootcamp on Demand To kickstart your alcohol free life check out our Bootcamp on Demand here Help us to Spread the Word! We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help. Please subscribe and share. If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts. Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We’ll send you something special to say thank you! We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning. You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram. You can join our private Facebook group HERE. PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device) Open the Podcasts app. EASY.Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Tribe Sober) into the search field.Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes).Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews.Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).
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    52 mins
  • Tribe Sober Bali Retreat - October 20-27th - Come and Join us!

    Tribe Sober Bali Retreat - October 20-27th - Come and Join us!
    Dec 12 2024

    Click on this link for info about Tribe Sober's Bali Retreat!
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    1 min
  • From Pain to Purpose with Ike Miller

    From Pain to Purpose with Ike Miller
    Dec 7 2024

    My guest this week is author Ike Miller

    In this episode:-

      • Ike’s father was an alcoholic, leading to family chaos and eventual divorce.
      • He experienced emotional and physical abuse, realizing the effects on his mental health only later in life.
      • Ike initially avoided alcohol due to his family background but started drinking at 22
      • Like many of us alcohol felt like a magic potion and he loved the effect it had on him
      • However as time passed he found himself relying on it more
      • During the pandemic, stress, anxiety, and depression exacerbated his drinking, leading to a strained relationship with his wife,
      • Ike’s counselor identified his behavior as addictive, which prompted him to seek help.
      • So he started addiction counseling, attended Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings, and began addressing unresolved trauma.
      • His healing process involved understanding and processing childhood trauma, addressing codependency, and redefining his coping mechanisms.
      • He reframed his experiences and began to identify strengths he had built as a result of his challenging childhood.
      • Ike eventually achieved sobriety through therapy, support groups, and open communication with his wife.
      • He has written a book called Good Baggage
      • The book explores how challenges from childhood can become strengths when leveraged correctly.
      • It emphasizes reframing childhood trauma as a source of resilience and emotional intelligence.
    • 3 Tips for People wanting to quit:-
      • Start by acknowledging the problem and seeking help through counseling or support groups.
      • Understand that addiction is a response to pain and prioritize healing over shame.
      • Recognise that although recovery is hard at the beginning it leads to significant improvements in relationships and self-worth.
      • You can contact Ike and buy his book by going to his website which is ikemiller.com
      • More Info

        • Tribe Sober membership – you can join up HERE.

          • To access our website, click HERE.
          • If you would like a free copy of our “Annual Tracker” or our e-book 66 Days to Sobriety, please email janet@tribesober.com.
          • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community, just email janet@tribesober.com.

        • Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program. If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today Read more about our program and subscribe here

        • Bootcamp on Demand

      • To kickstart your alcohol free life check out our Bootcamp on Demand here

        • Help us to Spread the Word!

          We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help. Please subscribe and share.

          If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts.

          Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We’ll send you something special to say thank you!

          We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

          You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram.

          You can join our private Facebook group HERE.

          PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device)

          1. Open the Podcasts app. EASY.
          2. Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Tribe Sober) into the search field.
          3. Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes).
          4. Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews.
          5. Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).
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    47 mins
  • Sparking Joy in Mid-life with Laurie Wright

    Sparking Joy in Mid-life with Laurie Wright
    Nov 30 2024

    My guest this week is Coach Laurie Wright

    In this episode:-

    • Laurie is a master neuro coach with a passion for helping others
    • She discovered this passion later in life and now she now helps others to find what lights them up in later life
    • She emphasizes personal growth and helping people overcome barriers.
    • Laurie advocates exploring new interests and redefining life goals post-midlife.
    • She believes in self-discovery and finding purpose through activities that bring value.
    • We agreed that exploring past interests even what we enjoyed as a child can spark a passion in later life
    • We agreed on the power of Visualization and the fact that it can build new neural pathways
    • Laurie shared a personal growth tool called the Sparketype test which is great for discovering what kind of activities will energise you.
    • She shared a personal experiences of helping a friend through addiction, witnessing her transformation, and rebuilding their lifelong friendship which had been broken
    • Lauries podcast is called: Living Your Sparked Second Half explores stories of late-life reinvention.
      • More Info

        • Tribe Sober membership – you can join up HERE.

          • To access our website, click HERE.
          • If you would like a free copy of our “Annual Tracker” or our e-book 66 Days to Sobriety, please email janet@tribesober.com.
          • If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community, just email janet@tribesober.com.

        • Episode Sponsor

          This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program. If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today Read more about our program and subscribe here

        • Bootcamp on Demand

      • To kickstart your alcohol free life check out our Bootcamp on Demand here

        • Help us to Spread the Word!

          We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help. Please subscribe and share.

          If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts.

          Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We’ll send you something special to say thank you!

          We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning.

          You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram.

          You can join our private Facebook group HERE.

          PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device)

          1. Open the Podcasts app. EASY.
          2. Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Tribe Sober) into the search field.
          3. Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes).
          4. Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews.
          5. Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).
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    50 mins
  • Blackout Drunk... at a Wedding with Tribe Member Darren

    Blackout Drunk... at a Wedding with Tribe Member Darren
    Nov 23 2024
    This weeks guest is… Tribe member Darren Darren came to our Masterclass a couple of years ago…and hasn’t had a drink since! You can check out our Masterclass here In this episode:- Darren started drinking at the age of 13His drinking escalated during university years, influenced by the heavy drinking culture which is prevalent in Northern Ireland Darrens drinking began to impact his life:- Struggled to maintain some of his responsibilities like paying rent. He experienced severe blackouts and embarrassing incidents at social events. He damaged relationships as a result of his drinking Darren’s Turning Point was a wedding which led to a realization about the damage he was doing to his relationshipsHis Partner’s comment about him having an issue with alcohol made him realise he had to make a choice So he decided to quit Even though he’d been a heavy drinker for a couple of decades he was able to quit by attending a 3-hour Tribe Sober MasterclassHe also listened to podcasts, read the quitlit and connected with our community via the whatsapp groups and Zoom meetingsDarren got curious about underlying reasons for his drinking and began addressing his self-esteem issues. He realised that alcohol was adding nothing but trouble to his life…and that without it he was experiencing many benefits He gained clarity, self-compassion, and a renewed sense of identity. His relationships improved, especially with his partner, who expressed pride and renewed love. Darren felt empowered and inspired to help others on their sobriety journey so he trained as a Coach He gave us a nice analogy about recovery being similar to an athlete healing from an injury: a temporary phase followed by ongoing management.His website is called "www.pauserecovery.com" and his email address is darren@pauserecovery.comDarrens Advice for Others wanting to quit drinking: start small, listen to podcasts and explore the QuitLit. get curious and reframe sobriety as freedom, not deprivation join Tribe Sober! More Info Tribe Sober membership – you can join up HERE. To access our website, click HERE.If you would like a free copy of our “Annual Tracker” or our e-book 66 Days to Sobriety, please email janet@tribesober.com.If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community, just email janet@tribesober.com. Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program. If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today Read more about our program and subscribe here Bootcamp on Demand To kickstart your alcohol free life check out our Bootcamp on Demand here Help us to Spread the Word! We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help. Please subscribe and share. If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts. Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We’ll send you something special to say thank you! We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning. You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram. You can join our private Facebook group HERE. PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device) Open the Podcasts app. EASY.Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Tribe Sober) into the search field.Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes).Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews.Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).
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    42 mins
  • Helene Throws the Book at her Sobriety!

    Helene Throws the Book at her Sobriety!
    Nov 16 2024
    This week I'm interviewing Tribe Sober member Hélène Hélène’s training as a management consultant included after work drinking sessions every day of the weekIt was almost a test to see if she could cope with the drinking and then show up looking fresh and professional the next dayDespite taking breaks from alcohol during her pregnancies, Helenes drinking ramped up again and although she loved being a mom she felt lonely and missed the intellectual stimulation she got through her careerHélène faced various health issues, including thyroid cancer in 2022, - this was certainly a wake up call as she has cancer in her family but she still didn’t quitShe shared the heartbreaking story of her drunken fall when she broke her arm and had to interrupt her chemo treatmentA turning point came after reading Claire Pooley’s *Sober Diaries*, not only did she realize that yes she died have a drinking problem but Clare enabled her to see that it was possible to alcohol free living was not only possible but desirableHélène is one of these people who made up her mind to quit and didn’t waver from the path…Her secret was to prepare thoroughly and set a firm start date: September 1, 2023.Hélène treated sobriety like a job and adopted a structured approach Her Action Plan:- - Informed her family and friends. - Listened to podcasts, reading literature, and walking her dog during her usual drinking hours. - Prepared meals in advance to avoid being in the kitchen during her "witching hour." - Joined Tribe Sober, found support through the community, regular Zoom meetings and Chatgroups The first three months were challenging but she got through them via a strong support system and a structured routine.Hélène went through a tough period from 6-9 months when she moved countries but she managed to stay sober.Around the 10-month mark, she transitioned from just surviving to thriving in her alcohol free lifeShe managed this via meditation, better nutrition, and self-compassion.Coaching played a pivotal role in her journey, initially helping her stay on track and later supporting her in self-discovery.Inspired by her own journey, Hélène is now training to become a coach in positive psychology, focusing on alcohol change. Her advice to others:- - Be fully ready and set a clear quit date. - Prepare by removing alcohol from the house and limiting social events during the first month. - Engage in daily support via a community and use tools like podcasts and trackers. - Start with a clear mind, not after a hangover, and be patient with the process. Hélène celebrated her one-year sobriety milestone by hosting a fabulous retreat at her home in FranceHosting 10 women she had only met online via Tribe Sober was way out of her comfort zone but as she said sobriety enabled her to do this As we say at TS Sobriety is a Superpower! Inspired by the success of our French retreat Hélène and I will be hosting a retreat in Bali next year – with the fabulous Tribe Sober coach Lynette… If you’re interested in a 7 day sober retreat in Bali then just drop me a line janet@tribesober.com More Info Tribe Sober membership – you can join up HERE. To access our website, click HERE.If you would like a free copy of our “Annual Tracker” or our e-book 66 Days to Sobriety, please email janet@tribesober.com.If you would like to come to our Saturday afternoon Zoom Cafe as a guest and meet our community, just email janet@tribesober.com. Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by the Tribe Sober Membership Program. If you want to change your relationship with alcohol then sign up today Read more about our program and subscribe here Bootcamp on Demand To kickstart your alcohol free life check out our Bootcamp on Demand here Help us to Spread the Word! We made this podcast so that we can reach more people who need our help. Please subscribe and share. If you enjoyed the podcast, then please leave us a 5-star review on Apple podcasts. Take a screenshot of your review, and DM it to Tribe Sober’s Instagram page – see PS below for instructions. We’ll send you something special to say thank you! We release a podcast episode every Saturday morning. You can follow Tribe Sober on Facebook, Twitter, TikTok and Instagram. You can join our private Facebook group HERE. PS: How to Leave a Rating/Review in Apple Podcasts (on an iOS Device) Open the Podcasts app. EASY.Choose “Search” from the bottom row of icons and enter the name of the show (e.g. Tribe Sober) into the search field.Select the show under Shows (not under Episodes).Scroll down past the first few episodes until you see Ratings & Reviews.Click Write a Review underneath the displayed reviews from other listeners. You’ll then have the option to rate the show on a 5-star scale and write a review (you can rate without writing too but it’s always good to read your experience).
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    57 mins