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Today, Dr. Gary and Barbie continue the third installment of their series, 12 Steps to Having an Affair. Today, Gary and Barbie discuss steps 7-12: Purposeful Isolating, Pleasurable Isolating, Affectionate Embracing, Passionate Embracing, Capitulation, and Acceptance. However, this series is also one of encouragement and hope! Gary and Barbie emphasize that if you’ve ever found yourself in these 12 Steps (or are there right now), it is not too late. By confession before God, with a trusted advisor, and with your spouse, you are forgiven and you can work toward restoration in your marriage.

12 Steps to Having an Affair

Week One

1. Readiness
   • Is there a readiness in your spirit or in your spouse's spirit that could lead you to a place you don’t want to go?
2. Alertness
   • Are you aware of/alert of a certain person in your circle who you find yourself drawn to who isn’t your spouse?

Week Two

1. Innocent Meeting
   • A chance encounter with someone with whom you end up mentally/emotionally/spiritually connecting. Your guard is down.
2. Intentional Meeting
   • You’re looking for this individual when you are at the same events - or you make sure to be at events where they will be present. Your heart is looking for that connection with them.
3. Public Lingering
   • Time spent together in group meetings/settings. You linger together after the meeting has concluded. People will begin to notice your attention towards each other.
4. Private Lingering
   • You lean into more risk-taking and feel the need to hide your time together.

Week Three (this episode)

1. Purposeful Isolating
   • You plan private meetings for “legitimate purposes”, i.e. if you work together, you go to their office often to ask “questions”, etc.
2. Pleasurable Isolating
   • You plan private meetings specifically for the enjoyment of the relationship.
3. Affectionate Embracing
   • You both begin to rationalize touching (hands touching, placing a hand on the arm, etc.)
4. Passionate Embracing
   • You begin to purposely engage in affectionate touching and embracing, i.e., hugging, kissing, etc.
5. Capitulation
   • You take the next step and enter into a sexual relationship.
6. Acceptance
   • Mutual consent and acceptance of affair.

Connect with the Rosbergs:

America’s Family Coaches

Meet Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg

6 Secrets to a Lasting Love

The 5 Love Needs of Men and Women

Guard Your Heart

Resources

12 Steps to An Affair PDF

Have a marriage question? Call in and leave a message: 855-ROSBERG (855-767-2374)

Books Mentioned

Temptations Men Face: Straightforward Talk on Power, Money, Affairs, Perfectionism, Insensitivity

The 5 Love Needs of Men a

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Today, Dr. Gary and Barbie continue the second installment of their series, 12 Steps to Having an Affair. Each episode will cover the slow and (sometimes innocent) steps that lead to infidelity if left unchecked. However, this series is also one of encouragement and hope! Today, Gary and Barbie discuss steps 3-6: Innocent Meeting, Intentional Meeting, Public Lingering, and Private Lingering.

Make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss Gary and Barbie sharing biblically based, intentional actions every married couple can take to find the “more” in their marriage.

12 Steps to Having an Affair

Week One

1. Readiness
   • Is there a readiness in your spirit or in your spouse's spirit that could lead you to a place you don’t want to go?
2. Alertness
   • Are you aware of/alert of a certain person in your circle who you find yourself drawn to who isn’t your spouse?

Week Two (this episode)

1. Innocent Meeting
   • A chance encounter with someone who you end up mentally/emotionally/spiritually connecting with. Your guard is down.
2. Intentional Meeting
   • You’re looking for this individual when you are at the same events - or you make sure to be at events where they will be present. Your heart is looking for that connection with them.
3. Public Lingering
   • Time spent together in group meetings/settings. You linger together after the meeting has concluded. People will begin to notice your attention towards each other.
4. Private Lingering
   • You lean into more risk-taking and you feel the need to hide your time together.

Connect with the Rosbergs:

America’s Family Coaches

Meet Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg

6 Secrets to a Lasting Love

The 5 Love Needs of Men and Women

Guard Your Heart

Resources

12 Steps to An Affair PDF

Have a marriage question? Call in and leave a message: 855-ROSBERG (855-767-2374)

Books Mentioned

Temptations Men Face: Straightforward Talk on Power, Money, Affairs, Perfectionism, Insensitivity

The 5 Love Needs of Men and Women

Send us a text

Most married couples believe that an affair could never happen to them…but the Rosbergs humbly suggest that that thought is naive. Beginning with today’s episode, Dr. Gary and Barbie will begin a series on the 12 steps that lead to an affair and the biblically based, intentional actions every married couple can take, together and individually, to avoid this outcome. The first two steps discussed today are Readiness and Alertness. Listen in (and share with your spouse!) to ensure the guardrails around your marriage are firmly in place.

Connect with the Rosbergs:

America’s Family Coaches

Meet Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg

6 Secrets to a Lasting Love

The 5 Love Needs of Men and Women

Guard Your Heart

Resources

Have a marriage question? Call in and leave a message: 855-ROSBERG (855-767-2374)

Scriptures

Proverbs 5:15-21

12 Steps to Having an Affair

Week One

1. Readiness
   • Is there a readiness in your spirit or in your spouse's spirit that could lead you to a place you don’t want to go?
2. Alertness
   • Are you aware of/alert of a certain person in your circle who you find yourself drawn to who isn’t your spouse?

Send us a text

Join Dr. Gary and Barbie Rosberg, Americas Family Coaches, who bring four decades of equipping marriages across the US and internationally for this podcast to equip you and your marriage with encouragement and tools for a great marriage. The Rosbergs, Gold Medallion winners, have written over a dozen prominent marriage resources and DVD series with about 1 million total resources distributed worldwide: with various titles in 12 different languages. On their brand new podcast Your Marriage Coaches, Gary and Barbie will equip and encourage listeners that the “more” they are longing for in their marriage isn’t out of reach - you just need a helping hand.

In today’s episode, Dr.Gary and Barbie discuss how to avoid cheating in your marriage. Cheating isn’t just adultery and it can sneak into your life in many different ways if you don’t stay vigilant and keep your guard up! They remind us that there is a very real enemy who hates your marriage and is actively trying to destroy it. It’s time to put on your armor and fight for the long-lasting, faithful, fun, and godly marriage God wants for you!

Connect with the Rosbergs:

America’s Family Coaches

Meet Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg

6 Secrets to a Lasting Love

Resources

Have a marriage question? Call in and leave a message:855-ROSBERG (855-767-2374)

Send us a text

Join Dr. Gary and Barbie Rosberg, Americas Family Coaches, who bring four decades of equipping marriages across the US and internationally for this podcast to equip you and your marriage with encouragement and tools for a great marriage. The Rosbergs, Gold Medallion winners, have written over a dozen prominent marriage resources and DVD series with about 1 million total resources distributed worldwide: with various titles in 12 different languages. On their brand new podcast Your Marriage Coaches, Gary and Barbie will equip and encourage listeners that the “more” they are longing for in their marriage isn’t out of reach - you just need a helping hand.


Connect with the Rosbergs:

America’s Family Coaches

Meet Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg

Resources

Have a marriage question? Call in and leave a message: 855-ROSBERG (855-767-2374)