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Ever wonder why your hard work isn't translating into the success you deserve? Allison Frigale, author of "Likable Badass," reveals the missing piece of the professional advancement puzzle that most women overlook.

While we've been taught to pursue power and control resources, Frigale introduces a game-changing perspective: status must come first. Unlike tangible power, status exists in other people's perceptions—it's how much they respect and value you. This critical currency determines whether others will grant you the resources and opportunities you've earned. As Frigale explains, "If you're trying to influence somebody who doesn't value you, you're sunk before you start."

The conversation explores how women often inadvertently sabotage their status through seemingly innocent behaviors. Self-deprecation, withholding accomplishments, and failure to strategically showcase expertise all chip away at how others perceive your value. Most surprising is the research showing that keeping achievements quiet doesn't make you appear humble—it actually damages relationships when people discover them later. "We think that when we keep good stuff to ourselves, people think we're humble," Frigale notes. "But the research shows it actually drives a wedge in relationships."

For those feeling undervalued in their current environment, Frigale offers practical hope. Status can be rebuilt over time, and leveraging allies—people who already respect you—can accelerate this process. She compares hoarding status to saving airline miles for a perfect trip that never materializes. Instead, she encourages viewing status as a renewable resource to be invested and spent strategically.

Whether you're just starting your career or looking to break through to the next level, this episode provides the framework and tactical approaches to ensure you receive the recognition and opportunities your capabilities deserve. Subscribe now and discover how balancing likability with badassery can transform your professional trajectory.

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Have you ever found yourself breaking your neck to be in spaces where you simply don't fit? That's the powerful question at the heart of this spontaneous yet profound conversation with communication coach Denise Thomas.

What began as a casual catch-up call transformed into a masterclass on recognizing your gifts, embracing divine timing, and understanding the crucial difference between fitting and forcing. Denise shares her journey as "a little Black girl growing up in a small Midwestern rural town" with extraordinary communication abilities, and how her mother's unwavering support helped her embrace rather than suppress her natural talents.

The wisdom flows effortlessly as Denise unpacks how our environment—defined as "the people, places, and things that have access to you"—shapes our gifts and purpose. She challenges listeners to move beyond merely being "products of their environment" to consciously deciding who deserves access to their energy and space.

Perhaps most striking is the conversation around networking and authentic connection. "Am I going into this room to chase or to attract?" Denise asks, offering a transformative perspective on how we approach relationships and opportunities. Rather than arriving with predetermined scripts and targets, she advocates for showing up authentically and trusting that you'll connect exactly with who you're meant to.

Faith emerges as the foundation for this trust-based approach to life. As Denise puts it, faith provides "the strength to move forward, even when the path isn't fully visible." This perspective allows you to replace "why me?" with "use me," shifting from questioning to purposeful action.

Listen in as these two friends share genuine insights that will help you strip away societal expectations, embrace your gifts, and find the spaces where your presence is truly valued without explanation. And stay tuned—there's already a Part Two in the works!

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What happens when leaders drive without a license? When we race through leadership responsibilities at 180 miles per hour without first understanding ourselves, we miss critical details and create unnecessary risks—for ourselves and those we lead.

In this powerful exploration of mindful leadership, we unpack the fundamental difference between leading from performance versus purpose. For generations, we've been taught to focus on achievement, external validation, and technical expertise. We've become masters at interpersonal relationships while neglecting the crucial intrapersonal relationship with ourselves and our deeper purpose.

The conversation reveals a troubling reality: most organizational ecosystems are governed by wounded, unrealized individuals leading from places of unresolved trauma. Even successful executives struggle to answer simple questions like "Why are you here?" and "What do you want?" without resorting to rehearsed, performative answers. Professional trauma from microaggressions, discrimination, and demoralizing experiences becomes the playbook from which many determine their worth and ultimately lead others.

But there's a profound alternative. Mindful leadership begins with creating space for stillness—just five minutes daily to be quiet enough to hear yourself. This small practice initiates transformation that ripples outward, affecting every relationship and organization you touch. The most powerful question you can ask is simply: "What am I resisting?" This often reveals where your destiny clashes with your current paradigm.

The journey toward conscious leadership isn't about dismantling everything you've learned but rather integrating it while ensuring external validation doesn't drive your decisions. When we recognize our inherent value beyond our achievements, we create space for others to do the same—cultivating environments where excellence, authenticity, and grace coexist.

Take the first step today. Set a timer for five minutes of stillness. Your authentic self is waiting to be heard, and the world needs leaders who lead from within.

Drive, Ambition, Doing, Leading, Creating... all good until we forget about our own self-care. This Village of All-Stars pays it forward with transparency about misses and celebration in winning. We cover many topics and keep it 100. We are Proven Not Perfect™️
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