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Ever wonder why your hard work isn't translating into the success you deserve? Allison Frigale, author of "Likable Badass," reveals the missing piece of the professional advancement puzzle that most women overlook.

While we've been taught to pursue power and control resources, Frigale introduces a game-changing perspective: status must come first. Unlike tangible power, status exists in other people's perceptions—it's how much they respect and value you. This critical currency determines whether others will grant you the resources and opportunities you've earned. As Frigale explains, "If you're trying to influence somebody who doesn't value you, you're sunk before you start."

The conversation explores how women often inadvertently sabotage their status through seemingly innocent behaviors. Self-deprecation, withholding accomplishments, and failure to strategically showcase expertise all chip away at how others perceive your value. Most surprising is the research showing that keeping achievements quiet doesn't make you appear humble—it actually damages relationships when people discover them later. "We think that when we keep good stuff to ourselves, people think we're humble," Frigale notes. "But the research shows it actually drives a wedge in relationships."

For those feeling undervalued in their current environment, Frigale offers practical hope. Status can be rebuilt over time, and leveraging allies—people who already respect you—can accelerate this process. She compares hoarding status to saving airline miles for a perfect trip that never materializes. Instead, she encourages viewing status as a renewable resource to be invested and spent strategically.

Whether you're just starting your career or looking to break through to the next level, this episode provides the framework and tactical approaches to ensure you receive the recognition and opportunities your capabilities deserve. Subscribe now and discover how balancing likability with badassery can transform your professional trajectory.

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