Episodes

  • Ep 105: What Can You Actually Control?

    Ep 105: What Can You Actually Control?
    Jan 7 2025
    We are generally conditioned by society to focus on outcomes, achievements, winning, etc. A major issue with this mindset is how we show up along the way to the finish line and, of course, when we “fail”. Hyper-focus on the outcome tends to create hyper-focus on controlling everyone and everything imaginable along the way. This can cause many problems including stress, misunderstanding, judgment, disappointment, and resentment. In this episode, we discuss the ego’s controlling tendency and the delicate balance between control and faith. Trying to control an outcome What do I realistically have control of? Criticizing others as an avoidance strategy Subconscious motives underlying control Control and faith Life is a faith game Our controlling nature leads to stress and judgment Short-term wins with the kids Trying to control others affects your mood Improving communication and understanding others Being aware of what serves you and how you want to show up ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    34 mins
  • Ep 104: Focus Is Natural

    Ep 104: Focus Is Natural
    Dec 31 2024
    With the progress of technology, we currently have more access to information and possibilities than ever in human history. However, this access can also work against us mentally, emotionally, and physically. How distracted are you daily from moment to moment? How is the quality of your focus and attention with the things that you do? If you are often distracted, what fear is at the root of your distraction? In this episode, we discuss nuances around our relationship to focus. Awareness of distractions Quality of how you show up Distinction and balance of forced focus vs. inspired focus Aligning larger commitments with the focus on specific actions Practicing doing focus Taking time to quiet the mind when distracted Fear is in the way of being focused Priority of how you show up vs. the goal or task ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    30 mins
  • Ep 103: Leveling Up On Another Level

    Ep 103: Leveling Up On Another Level
    Dec 24 2024
    What does leveling up look like for you? Improving performance in our fitness, job, business, or romantic relationships is a common goal we are familiar with. But how often do we intentionally level up how we see the world? More specifically, how frequently do we redefine the words we use, question our existing beliefs, or integrate our ego and intuition? Engaging in leveling up our broader picture of life supports success across all areas of our lives, whereas traditional goal setting intends to level up a specific area of life. In this episode, we look at the bigger picture of leveling up in service of the highest integrated version of ourselves. Who you become on your journey toward goals How are we feeling about all areas of our life? What does leveling up mean and look like for you? Leveling up the definitions of the words we use Distinguishing ego from intuition Question everything, especially existing beliefs Who we are now vs. who we want to be Balancing logical thinking and dreaming Shifting from head to heart and intuition ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    30 mins
  • Ep 102: So You Feel Like An Imposter?

    Ep 102: So You Feel Like An Imposter?
    Dec 17 2024
    Imposter syndrome is like an annoying head cold that periodically appears in all of us. It often holds us back from becoming the highest versions of ourselves. Fear-based messaging throughout society since our childhood is at the root of it. We weren’t usually rewarded for taking risks, being authentic, and following our hearts. Rather, we were often rewarded for good behavior and conformity and shamed otherwise. What if imposter syndrome was just an indicator for us to check alignment with what and how we are pursuing as a goal? In this episode, we discuss the basic workings of imposter syndrome and perspectives on shifting our relationship to it. When does imposter syndrome show up? Comparison vs. judgment Fake it till you make it From understanding to embodiment Misalignment adds to feelings of being an imposter Importance of committing to the process Imposter syndrome is inevitable Defense to stay comfortable Consequences aren’t inherently bad Imposter syndrome is an internal indicator ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    31 mins
  • Ep 101: All Things In Moderation

    Ep 101: All Things In Moderation
    Dec 10 2024
    Moderation applies to much more than an overindulgence of the things we love to consume. Moderation is a key aspect of being human. It shows up, for example, in activity vs. recovery, saving vs. spending, giving vs. taking, etc. We all have a unique ongoing balance that supports the most and least aligned versions of ourselves. However, conditioned beliefs often stimulate confusion, including our comparison with society’s standards. So, how do you define moderation? Does this definition need to change? Where in your life are you showing up with too much or not enough of something? In this episode, we explore the importance of finding this balance within. Gauging moderation for yourself Intentionally moderating work vs. rest Self-awareness of physical and energetic signs Separating self-judgments from physical and energetic signs The automatic “I’m good” answer Everyone’s moderation is different Comparison with society’s standards From honesty to making aligned choices Moderation is an ongoing process Is your definition of moderation supporting you? ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    31 mins
  • Ep 100: Observing Reactions

    Ep 100: Observing Reactions
    Dec 3 2024
    Being able to observe our automatic reactions to people and situations is highly important to understand ourselves. Reactionary feelings are indicators of our conditioned programming. And our reactionary actions are extensions of that programming. Negative reactionary feelings and actions tend to stagnate our growth if we do not see the silver lining. However, there is also a spontaneous beauty in reactionary feelings that arise, as we often see in children. In this episode, we explore various layers of our being as we grow from reactionary to responsive. Observing reactions in ourselves and others React vs. Respond Trying to over-control spontaneous reactions Hypersensitivity and lack of ownership Noticing initial reactionary feelings Owning our reactions and responsibility to understand others’ views Overreactions and judgment Links mentioned: ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    30 mins
  • Ep 99: I’m Right, You’re Wrong!

    Ep 99: I’m Right, You’re Wrong!
    Nov 26 2024
    We all carry right vs. wrong contexts in all areas of our lives. Problems magnify when we force our right vs. wrong contexts onto others. The ego’s tendency to desperately cling to being right often limits our growth and ability to connect. In this episode, we explore various perspectives of the right vs. wrong context and distinguish our judgments from simply what is. The right vs. wrong context Realization of the trap The ego’s tendency to cling The human level of context vs. macro view of what Is How broad are we looking at the grand scheme of things? What if there was no right or wrong? Consequences of daily choices We were conditioned to have the right answer and behavior The challenge of starting with a blank canvas The hypocrisy of attempting to control Continual evolution of the new right way ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    32 mins
  • Ep 98: Winter Is Coming

    Ep 98: Winter Is Coming
    Nov 19 2024
    We all have a relationship to the winter season. For many, winter represents the coming of the year-end holidays. The holidays can be stressful times with events, family gatherings, shopping, or a last push to complete goals. Winter tends to bring less daylight and a metabolic slowdown, which may contribute to surfacing feelings of loneliness or sadness. Regardless of our relationship with this season, it is a special opportunity to disrupt conditioned patterns of thought and behavior. The energy of winter facilitates deeper self-reflection if we truly want more clarity. In this episode, we discuss taking advantage of these winter months. Noticing your conditioning related to winter Slowing down and getting quieter internally Grinding through planning and your plans Noticing your way of being with goals Specifics are key, even if you don’t buy into the metric Reflecting on your year and planning for the next Acknowledging and reflecting on feelings Time for clarity and getting real ------------------------- CONNECT WITH JEFF: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching CONNECT WITH TATSU: Website: https://tatsuyafushimi.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuyafushimi/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    31 mins