Parents & Adult Children

Transform your Empty Nest experience into a time of rejuvenation and growth—even if you've felt lost without your children's daily presence. Are you struggling to redefine yourself now that your children have embarked on their own journeys? Or perhaps you're wondering how to fill the quiet spaces in your life? You’re not alone. Many parents in their 40s to 60s face an identity shift when their children leave home. But this phase can also mark the beginning of one of the most liberating and rewarding chapters of your life.

Family scapegoating is an insidious form of "invisible" abuse that is difficult to recognize. It is therefore critical that adult survivors of dysfunctional or narcissistic family systems understand what type of abuse they are trying to recover from. In Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed, licensed psychotherapist and family systems expert Rebecca C. Mandeville uses her research findings on what she named "Family Scapegoating Abuse" (FSA) to help survivors recognize and release the damaging "scapegoat" narrative associated with the family "identified patient" role.

Did you grow up with a parent who has borderline personality disorder (BPD), or you suspect they did? Was your parent's behavior unpredictable or scary? Did it seem like they were angry one minute and happy the next? Were your basic needs ignored? If so, it wasn't your fault. This compassionate guide offers a trauma-informed approach to help you recover from your toxic childhood and discover the person you were truly meant to be. You'll learn how to identify emotional and developmental wounds, and discover why interactions with your parents were so harmful to your sense of self.

La cura di sé è una delle cose più importanti che si possano imparare, ma la chiave è capire cosa funziona meglio per sé e come farlo. Tuttavia, ti ritrovi spesso ad avere difficoltà con il prenderti cura di te stesso? Hai provato innumerevoli tattiche e suggerimenti di persone online o della tua cerchia ristretta? Ti senti svuotato dalle interazioni sociali? Sei in relazione con le emozioni che provano i tuoi amici e la tua famiglia? Potresti chiederti perché sei sensibile alle cose, o credere che stai reagendo in modo eccessivo.

Embrace the journey of building a meaningful relationship with your adult children, no matter the challenges. Are you stuck supporting your adult child without seeing progress toward their independence? Struggling to set boundaries without risking your relationship? Feeling unneeded as your role shifts from caregiver to consultant? If these struggles sound familiar, you're not alone. Many parents face these challenges, but here's the good news: You can change this narrative!