• The Uncaged Woman and SEX
    Dec 22 2024

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    Welcome to the final episode of season 2 of the Woman Uncaged podcast. Today, let's talk about sex, baby!

    In this episode, we dive into:

    - The different expectations and messages that we receive about sex as women vs. men
    - The split many women experience of being either a virgin or a whore
    - Blooming in midlife and beyond
    - How it felt for Laura to experience her sexuality again
    - Reclaiming the young maiden energy
    - The importance of the circumstances that we are in and not problematizing our sexuality or lack there of
    - The difficulty of staying in your own experience when others' experiences, feelings, and judgments are often reflected back to you
    - How do we define sexual freedom outside of patriarchal models
    - The physical, emotional, mental and soulful aspects of sex and how much they matter...or not
    - How sexuality is seen as a problem for women rather than a gift
    - Why so many of us are utterly bewildered
    - The importance of being able to change our minds and renegotiate in partnerships
    - The joy of reclaiming our sexuality as adult women!

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul ~Laura's Monday Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/

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    47 mins
  • Women, You Need to Stop Doing This (eye roll)
    Dec 4 2024

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    Welcome to episode 18 of season 2 of the Woman Uncaged podcast! This week's episode was inspired by something Laura heard on a religious radio station while driving through rural Pennsylvania (it was the only kind of radio she could get!).

    We explore:

    - A pastor's biggest advice for women
    - Why are women always the ones who have to change and accommodate?
    - How this harms both women AND men
    - The demonization of women's curiosity
    - Our "advice" for the woman whose husband won't answer her questions or simply shuts down
    - Sitting side by side vs. facing one another
    - Should women lower our standards?
    - How women are usually responsible for checking the pulse of relationship
    - Why we wait for men to diagnose the state of the relationship
    - If men are more prone to getting stuck in the comfort zone
    - The mommy/son dynamic
    - How "twinning" in relationships does not offer deep relationships
    - How we are taught that it's off-putting to want to get to really know a person
    - Why women asking questions is disruptive to patriarchy
    - Laura's main filter when online dating

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul ~Laura's Monday Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/

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    46 mins
  • Beyond the fire: embracing joy, love, and the full spectrum of experience in these challenging times
    Nov 23 2024

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    Welcome to the Woman Uncaged Podcast, Episode 17 of Season 2! In this episode we explore how to maintain our softness in the face of difficult times, and a reclaiming of our emotional range no matter what is happening.

    We talk about:
    -how suffering doesn't equate caring
    -how we can feel more than one emotion at a time
    -how we can't tell what a person is feeling based on their behavior
    -how we need the rebel energy and that fire, but we don't want to stay there
    -how important it is to have people who will see and hold the whole range of who we are
    -how important it is not to belittle joy and pleasure
    -how joy and love can remind us what we're standing for
    -accepting things in other people that we will never understand
    -conditional belonging
    -how if we define ourselves by what we're against, when we take that thing away, we no longer know who we are

    We reference:
    The book Artemis: The Indomitable Spirit in Everywoman by Jean Shinoda Bolen
    The book in which Linda's poem appears: Weaving Our Way Beyond Patriarchy at Womancraft Publishing.


    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul ~Laura's Monday Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/

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    49 mins
  • Why do we have to be so nice all the time?
    Nov 17 2024

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    Welcome to episode 16 of season 2 of the Woman Uncaged podcast! This week's episode was inspired by Linda's little "outburst" last week during a group gathering. At this point, some of us have simply had it and we are sick of having to be nice, caring, and compassionate about everything all the time!

    We dive into:

    - Why Linda and Laura were both proud of Linda for having the outburst in the first place!
    - The gift and the peril of seeing underneath bad behavior
    - How being nice is often baked into the job functions that women hold in society and the cost to their own wellbeing, as articulated by Arlie Russell Hochschild
    - How people who take advantage will test you to see if you're willing to step up for yourself
    - Laura's date where she was completely comfortable with her boundaries
    - Our societal expectations that women are just going to "take it"
    - The beneficial role of anger
    - Laura's story of chasing a man down the street while barefoot!
    - Linda's obsession with the goddess Artemis
    - What happens when curiosity and compassion are not reciprocal in relationships
    - A trend of women getting texts from men about wanting "post-election distraction"

    Resources Mentioned:
    - The Managed Heart: Commercialization of Human Feeling by Arlie Russell Hochschild
    - Goddesses in Everywoman and Artemis: The Indomitable Spirit in Everwoman by Jean Shinoda Bolen, MD

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul ~Laura's Monday Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/

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    46 mins
  • Post-election aftermath and preparing for what comes next
    Nov 11 2024

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    Welcome to episode 15, Season 2 of the Woman Uncaged Podcast.

    We weren't sure we were up to recording an episode this week after the devastating news that we're facing another 4 years (more if he has his way) of Trump's attempt at tyranny. But we decided to go ahead and talk about how this is impacting us, and how angry we are at the idiotic misogynists who are gloating that "there will never be a woman president" and saying "your body, my choice."

    Be warned, our language reflects our outrage. Listen with headphones if you have little ones around.

    We mention this horrible, infuriating video: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DCDgEizuFmH/?igsh=Yjl1Mzllam04d2Jq

    And this Jimmy Kimmel video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5JxELubSgJg&t=26s (the monologue Laura referenced starts at 1 min. 39 secs)

    Resources we talk about for good sources of information:
    Heather Cox Richardson's fabulous, informative newsletter: https://heathercoxrichardson.substack.com/
    Robert Reich's newsletter (he often puts out informative videos, as well: https://robertreich.substack.com/
    Ultraviolet: https://weareultraviolet.org/

    Please text us and let us know how you're doing, and if you have resources to share. We're in this together!

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul ~Laura's Monday Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/

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    45 mins
  • Ranting and Raving and Leaning On One Another: How We're Getting Through This Election
    Nov 2 2024

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    Welcome to Episode 14 of the Woman Uncaged podcast! In this week's episode, we address the elephant in the room: the election happening in the U.S. on Tuesday. While we intended to focus on ways to care for ourselves and one another during challenging times, we also needed a space to rant and rave about how the cages appear to be strengthening and multiplying rather than dismantling.

    We dive into...
    - How many of us are struggling during this time and how the heck are we supposed to get through the next few days
    - Why obsessively following the news isn't helping
    - How we are seeing stress and anxiety with our clients
    - How the United States can be an indicator of where tides are turning world wide
    - Odessa, Texas' transgender bathroom bounty law
    - Why this election is deeply personal
    - The importance of figuring out ways to move forward and how that requires us to stay resourced
    - How having a safe space to cry or rage is vital, as is claiming our joy
    - The importance of sisterhood and relationship
    - How misogyny is the undercurrent of many of our conversations on reproductive rights
    - How the reality of abortion differs from the stories that are told
    - Why the standard idea of caring for ourselves isn't enough; we need to care for and with one another
    - The importance of getting in touch with your anger

    Correction:
    Linda misspoke. The party in Sweden she was referring to is actually called the Sweden Democrats.

    Resources:
    Erin in the Morning: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
    ProPublica Article: https://www.propublica.org/article/josseli-barnica-death-miscarriage-texas-abortion-ban

    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul ~Laura's Monday Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/

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    41 mins
  • Exploring the costs of convenience in an online world
    Oct 27 2024

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    Welcome to the 13th episode of Season 2 of Woman Uncaged.

    Today, we're talking about the struggle many of us (especially those of us with internet-based businesses or remote work) are having with balancing our online existence with our offline lives.

    We dive into:
    -how our lives moved online when the pandemic hit
    -wondering whether being online so much truly serves us
    -the balance of relationships online and offline
    -not always choosing the convenient option
    -asking what convenience costs us
    -how knowing what we value helps us make our choices, which may not always be convenient
    -how being in good girl patterns influences our ability to choose
    -our opinions about how our online existence has influenced our abilities to be in deep relationship
    -the freedoms online life affords us
    -how to create bridges between the online and offline world

    Life Reinvention Sessions with Linda and Laura:
    If you'd like to nab one, visit:
    https://lauragatesluptonmswcpc.as.me/lifereinvention (if there are no slots available, they've all been taken)


    ~Linda's book: Homecoming: One Woman's Story of Dismantling Her Inner Cage and Freeing Her Wild Feminine Soul ~Laura's Monday Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/

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    45 mins
  • Putting Work In Its Place!
    Oct 19 2024

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    Welcome to Episode 12, Season 2 of the Woman Uncaged podcast! Today we return to a favorite topic of ours: work and money-making and how they have taken on an outlandish importance in our modern lives.

    In the episode, we dive into:

    - An example of how regular work can support what matters in our lives without taking over our lives
    - How things might look different if we treated money like firewood
    - How the industrial revolution shifted how we approach work
    - The way an 8-hour workday makes very little sense in most cases
    - Making our jobs work for us rather than us simply working for them
    - Examples of different ways of living and working that we don't typically hear about
    - Resisting the pressure to make work the organizing principle of our lives
    - Why Laura doesn't like money goals even though she's a money coach!
    - Why both Laura and Linda fully support a liberal arts education
    - How easy the cages are to jump into even when we don't consciously want to
    - What we might get to reclaim as human beings, and what could we do with our time, if we were less consumed with work
    - How difficult it is to know when we've done "enough" work, especially when we work for ourselves
    - Building in and embracing seasonality in our production, work, and businesses
    - Not only the external cages, but how we have internalized these societal voices

    Resources:
    Michael Neill
    How to Be Idle: A Loafer's Manifesto by Tom Hodgkinson
    Women Rowing North: Navigating Life's Currents and Flourishing as We Age by Mary Pipher
    Redefining Rich: Achieving True Wealth with Small Business by Shannon Hayes

    Life Reinvention Sessions:
    If you'd like to nab one, visit:
    https://lauragatesluptonmswcpc.as.me/lifereinvention

    ~Linda's website: https://singingbirdcoaching.com/ ~Laura's Monday Money Missives: https://goodwithmoney.substack.com/

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    47 mins