Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP202 – Solo Hotwife Play Date: From Lingerie Nerves to a CU-soaked Finish

Welcome to a juicy bonus episode of Wanderlust Swingers! In this unscheduled, unfiltered conversation, Cate takes us behind the scenes of her most recent solo hotwife play date—a sexy, nerve-wracking, pounding-filled night that left everyone hot, wet, and just a little bit awkward.

From lingerie mishaps to ben wa balls, awkward flirting to explosive orgasms, this episode is a raw (sometimes hilariously chaotic) look at what it’s really like to go on a solo hotel date with a single guy. Darrell weighs in with his thoughts on compersion, the thrill of being included before and after, and what it's like when your partner comes home smelling like someone else’s cologne.

Plus, a listener question dives into whether solo play still counts if it's only with people you've previously played with—and how to handle that tricky dynamic when it feels like freedom with limitations.

In This Episode:

🔹 The real logistics of setting up a hotwife solo date 🔹 How it feels to include your partner without them being there 🔹 Play anxiety, body compliments, and sensual 69s 🔹 The five-hour play session, the pounding, and the cum-soaked ending 🔹 Why this listener’s question about “controlled solo play” hits close to home 🔹 Red vs Black lingerie: how to ruin a sexy setup in two sentences 🔹 Reclaiming sex or just raw excitement?

Quick Links & Goodies:

• Get the behind-the-scenes pics + pre/post-play video on our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/c/SwingingDownunder
• Join our upcoming Swingers Events Libertine Events https://libertineevents.com/
• Find out more about global events on our podcast website https://wanderlustswingers.com/swingers-events/

Coming Soon:

August 6th: Our Paris & Cap d’Agde travel episode, recorded just before our return to the naked city!

Whether you're hotwife curious, deep into the lifestyle, or just here for the chaos and chemistry—this episode is pure swinger gold.

Tags: Hotwife Lifestyle, Hotwife Podcast, Solo Play in Swinging, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Compersion, Swinger Podcast, Wanderlust Swingers, Non-Monogamy Stories, Hotwife Playdate, Cuckquean, Open Relationship Podcast, Swinger Advice, Swinger Diary, Swinger Lifestyle Humor, Libertine Events

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP201 – Swinger Event Hosting Isn’t for the Weak

Ever wondered what it really takes to host a swingers lifestyle event? From clogged toilets in lingerie to DJ sets soaked in sweat, this candid crossover with Mickey & Mallory from the Casual Swinger Podcast exposes the highs, lows, and hilariously gross realities of being a swingers event host.

We’re pulling back the velvet curtain to share our wildest stories from hosting major lifestyle takeovers like Casual Swinger Week at Hedonism Jamaica and Libertine Events Miami. You'll hear about guests gone rogue, glow-stick overkill, questionable hotel staff, and the unexpected emotional weight of managing relationship drama at sex-positive parties.

Stick around for the segments:

• Top 5 Unsexiest Things We’ve Done at a Sexy Event

• What’s in Our Swinger Event Survival Kits?

• True or Trope? — a rapid-fire myth-busting game about lifestyle stereotypes

• If One More Person Asks Me To… (You know who you are)

• Toast, No Roast — our heartfelt shoutouts to guests who made it all worth it

• Tipsy Takeaways — advice for nervous newbies, returning guests & aspiring event hosts

Whether you're a seasoned swinger, an aspiring event planner, or just here for the behind-the-scenes chaos, this episode is a laugh-out-loud, learn-a-lot look at what it takes to run the sexiest events on earth—without losing your mind (or your vibrator).

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

• Condom carnage and playroom clean-ups

• Conflict resolution and crying girls in the hallway

• Lifestyle myths: fact or fiction?

• Our ultimate swinger event survival kits (snacks, lube, Narcan, and more)

• How to be a better guest at lifestyle takeovers

• Gold-star hosting advice from three lifestyle veterans

Useful Links from this Episode: Casual Swinger Podcast – https://casualswinger.com/ Libertine Events Miami Swingers Takeover – https://libertineevents.com/miami/ Libertine Events San Antonio Takeover – https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio/

Support the show + get exclusive bonus content: 👉 Patreon – Wanderlust Swingers

Tags: Swinger Podcast, Swingers Lifestyle Events, Hotwife Lifestyle, Casual Swinger Podcast, Libertine Events, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Non-Monogamy Podcast, Swingers Hotel Takeover, Lifestyle Hosting, Behind the Scenes, Hedonism Events, Swinger Myths, Playroom Stories, Open Relationships, Swinger Advice, Conflict Resolution in Swinging, Hotwife Fantasy, Lifestyle Survival Tips

EP200 – Hotwife Glory Hole Experience & 3 New Swingers Clubs in 3 Weeks

In our 200th episode, Cate and Darrell reflect on a decade in the lifestyle — and ask: can old swingers learn new tricks? From awkward dress-downs and single-guy overloads to sexy vibes, secret blowjobs, and diverse party crowds, this one is packed.

We hit up three different swingers clubs in three weeks, including CitySwingers in Copenhagen (a real let down), Party Players in the Netherlands (a sexy swingers club but not a swingers event), and finally the X Club in Toronto — where a hotwife glory hole scene played out in real-time.

You’ll also hear about:

• What makes a club feel sexy (or not)

• Swingers vs. sex clubs: what’s the difference?

• Party diversity, drug culture at events, and the illusion of no-phone policies

• Cate’s secret hotwife escapade: from business-bitch lingerie to anonymous cock sucking

Plus, we tease what’s ahead for Cap d’Agde, share a major Libertine Events milestone, and celebrate hitting 200 episodes without a single piña colada spilled on the mic. Cheers, you filthy animals.

• Swingers Clubs Reviewed – CitySwingers (Copenhagen), Party Players (NL), and The X Club (Toronto)

• Dress Down Disasters – From mismatched underwear to sensory shutdowns

• Hotwife Glory Hole Fantasy – Cate and a stranger's cock, one hole, zero hesitation

• Diversity Wins – Why inclusive swinger parties feel better

• Behind the Curtain – Real talk on party rules, event polish, and the drug-vibe spectrum

Useful Links from this Episode:

• Support Us + Access Exclusive Content - https://patreon.com/swingingdownunder
• X Club Tour on YouTube - https://youtu.be/YFmlAlm42E0?si=-h1iBPwUTnIVoI63
• X Club Toronto Website - https://www.thexclub.net/
• Party Players Lelystad (Netherlands) - https://partyplayers.nl/
• CitySwingers Copenhagen (Denmark) - https://www.swingeren.dk/
• Libertine Events – Swingers Takeovers & Parties - https://libertineevents.com
• Contact Us - email@wanderlustswingers.com

Tags: Swinger Podcast, Hotwife Lifestyle, Glory Hole Story, Swingers Club Reviews, Wanderlust Swingers, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Non-Monogamy Podcast, Lifestyle Events, Open Relationships, Party Players, X Club Toronto, CitySwingers, Sex Club vs Swingers Club, Hotwife Fantasy, Diversity in Swinging, Libertine Events

EP199 – Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire in the Swingers Lifestyle

In this episode, Cate and Darrell dive into the psychology and practicality of spontaneous vs. responsive desire — and how this can make or break your experiences in the lifestyle. Whether you're the one who’s ready to go at the first flash of lingerie or someone who needs the right mood, connection, or even lunch before feeling sexy, we explore what it all means for swingers navigating clubs, hotel takeovers, and multi-day events.

We also update you on the notorious dildo from the last episode — yes, Cate used it. Was it sexy? Science-y? Did it cause a UTI? (Spoiler: yes to all of the above). Plus, you’ll hear about Cate’s surprise visit to a Canadian club, her puffed-up chipmunk face courtesy of the Dutch healthcare system, and a viral Facebook video that got her slapped with a ‘bullying’ violation. You can’t make this stuff up.

Finally, we tackle a fantastic listener question: Why are we pickier on dating sites than in real life? Is it about spontaneity, judgment, or just too many filters?

The Dildo Debrief – Cate puts the giant toy to the test (with help) and shares the honest, messy aftermath

Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire – What it means, how to spot it in yourself or your partner, and how it plays out at lifestyle events

Desire Mismatches – What to do when one partner is ready to pounce and the other needs time to warm up

Listener Q&A – Why are we all trolls online? Cate reflects on being pickier in apps than IRL, and what that says about connection

Be A Better Swinger Tips – Learn your desire style and how to meet each other in the middle (without pressure)

Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com YouTube: Wanderlust Swingers on YouTube Libertine Events – Texas Takeover: https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio Email: email@wanderlustswingers.com Support us & see the uncensored dildo pics: patreon.com/swingingdownunder

Tell us what turns you on, how you navigate mismatched desire with your partner, or what you’ve learned in your own lifestyle journey — we love hearing your stories and insights.

Spontaneous Desire, Responsive Desire, Swinger Podcast, Hotwife Lifestyle, Non-Monogamy, Lifestyle Events, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Hotel Takeovers, Sex Toy Reviews, Open Relationships, Lifestyle Club Tips, Group Play, Swingers Communication, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Desire Mismatch, Cap d’Agde, Sexual Compatibility

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories EP198 – Cap D Agde Desires, What’s in the Box and How to Small Talk

Cate’s fresh back from Miami (just her this time!) and while we only touch on that wild weekend, we’re diving deep into what’s really heating things up: our return to Cap d’Agde in 2025, a brand new sex toy, and Darrell’s spicy fantasy.

In this episode, Darrell receives a mystery box that leaves Cate both suspicious and very curious. Spoiler alert: it’s a new toy — but it’s not one we’ve ever used before. Unboxing it live kicks off a conversation about impulse sexy buys, techy pleasure, and how this toy might play into fantasy fufillment.

We’re also answering a great listener question from a hotwife couple in New Zealand: How do you make small talk in the lifestyle when talking about work and kids feels out of place? From flirting in loud clubs to deep connection at weekend events, we’ve got practical tips, sexy one-liners, and a few hilarious fails to share.

And finally — we’re going back to the Naked City! Cap d’Agde 2025 is on the horizon and we’re already fantasizing about beachside play, group massages, and balcony sex in the hot Mediterranean sun. This isn’t just a trip — it’s a sexual state of mind.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Mystery Box Reveal: Darrell’s new toy arrives and Cate’s imagination runs wild

• Lifestyle Small Talk: Flirty questions, fun energy, and how to connect without asking about someone’s 9–5

• Cap d’Agde Desires: Why we’re going back and what (or who) we want to do when we get there

• Darrell’s Fantasy: How we're fulfilling it without putting anyone at risk

• Be A Better Swinger Tips: Mindset matters — whether it’s packing for Cap or chatting up couples at a club

Links:

Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@WanderlustSwingers Libertine Events – Texas Takeover: https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio Email: email@wanderlustswingers.com

Are you coming to Cap d’Agde in 2025? Do you have a fantasy you’re dying to try? Or want to see what was in the box? Drop us a line — we love hearing from you!

Tags: Cap d’Agde, Swinger Podcast, Non-Monogamy, Hotwife Lifestyle, Sex Toy Reviews, Fantasy Play, Open Relationships, Swingers Club Tips, Lifestyle Small Talk, Hotel Takeovers, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Libertine Events, Voyeurism, Group Play, New Sex Toys

How does sexual trauma affect your lifestyle journey?

Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of sexual trauma, abuse, and emotional triggers. Please take care while listening.

In this vulnerable and powerful episode, Cate is joined by trauma-informed coach Meshai from Expansive Connection to explore what happens when past trauma meets lifestyle play. Cate also shares her personal experience with sexual trauma — opening up publicly for the first time.

Whether you’re navigating your own healing, supporting a partner, or just want to be a more compassionate and informed member of the lifestyle, this conversation is essential.

What we cover: ✔ What sexual trauma looks like in lifestyle spaces ✔ Common triggers during play or events ✔ What partners and playmates need to understand ✔ Cate’s story ✔ How to create trauma-aware swinger environments ✔ Supporting survivors without needing every detail ✔ Why trauma must be part of the conversation ✔ Real tools for safer play and stronger connections

Resources & Support: 1800Respect – www.1800respect.org.au | 1800 737 732 RAINN – www.rainn.org | 800-656-HOPE Rape Crisis UK – www.rapecrisis.org.uk SurvivorsUK (for men) – www.survivorsuk.org

Let’s talk about it. Share this episode with your partner, club community, or friends in the lifestyle. The more we talk, the safer we all become.

Join us in Texas https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio/

Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com Instagram https://www.instagram.com/swingingdownunder Twitter https://twitter.com/swingdownunder TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@wanderlustswingers YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ShamelessNonMonogamywithSDU

Tags: Sexual Trauma, Swinger Lifestyle, Trauma-Informed Play, Non-Monogamy, Consent Culture, PTSD and Sex, Ethical Swinging, Open Relationships, Trauma Support, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories

Cate and Darrell revisit soft swap play for the first time in seven years — and it happened at none other than Fun4Two, the iconic swingers club in the Netherlands. What started as a night out turned into a wildly sensual experience filled with connection, chemistry, a six-handed massage… and yes, some cum on the floor.

We explore the dynamics of soft swap play, the assumptions people make about it, and whether full swap couples are missing out by skipping over these intimate encounters. Cate also makes a hilarious faux pas, and offers a boss-level club tour move, and together they reflect on how chemistry can totally eclipse categories.

Here’s what you’ll hear:

🔹 The Night at Fun4Two: From flirting at the bar to hands-on tantra and one unforgettable group experience 🔹 Soft Swap Revisited: Why it felt complete, hot, and unexpectedly fulfilling — even without PIV 🔹 Redefining the Rules: Thoughts on how vague soft swap definitions can create confusion and missed connections 🔹 Club Tips: How to stand out in a room full of lingerie and boots 🔹 Red Flags, Green Flags & Play Pitfalls: Advice for newbies and seasoned swingers alike 🔹 Listener Reflections: Juicy comments from the community about the pros and cons of soft swap dynamics

Plus, life updates! Cate’s heading to Miami, Darrell’s off to South Korea, and someone just turned 40… but we’re not talking about that, okay?

Links:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@WanderlustSwingers Website: www.wanderlustswingers.com Join us in Texas this October - Libertine Events : https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio

Is soft swap the underrated gem of the swinger world? Rediscover it with us in this sexy, playful, and thought-provoking episode.

Tags: Soft Swap, Swinger Club Play, Full Swap vs. Soft Swap, Fun4Two, Swinger Podcast, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Hotwife Stories, Open Relationships, Lifestyle Tips, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Non-Monogamous Adventures

In this important episode, Cate speaks with Steve Gagne, owner of Wicked Fun Club, a private members-only lifestyle venue in Connecticut that has recently been issued a cease and desist order by the Town of Plymouth.

Only five months into a three-year lease, the club is now in the midst of a legal and political battle that raises serious questions about privacy, zoning laws, and stigma against non-monogamous communities.

Steve shares what really happened, how it’s affecting the club and its members, and what the community can do to support. This episode goes beyond local politics—it's a wake-up call for everyone in the lifestyle.

“This story isn’t just about one club in one town—it’s about how adult freedom, privacy, and community values clash in the real world. Whether you're in Connecticut or California, we all have a stake in the lifestyle's right to exist safely and respectfully.” ~ Cate, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast

In this episode, we cover:

• What Wicked Fun Club is and who it serves

• The zoning issue and cease and desist order

• Tensions between the club, the landlord, and the neighboring church

• The broader impact on lifestyle members and safe spaces

• The current appeal process

• What support is needed from the non-monogamous community

• How this story affects the lifestyle space nationwide

Links and Resources: Wicked Fun Club Website: https://wickedfunclub.com News article on the shutdown: NBC Connecticut Reddit review thread: r/Swingers discussion Learn about club rights: https://ncsfreedom.org

Stay Connected: Instagram: @swingingdownunder Twitter: @swingdownunder Website: https://wanderlustswingers.com

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