If you’ve ever wondered if this is just how life feels when you don’t become a mom, this episode is for you.

• Maybe your fertility journey ended with heartbreak instead of a baby.
• Maybe you’ve been told (by the world, by your inner voice) that life will always feel incomplete, lonely, or second-best now.
• Maybe you scroll past pregnancy announcements and family vacation photos, not because you’re bitter, but because they hurt.
• And maybe you’ve started to believe the quiet story that society tells women like us: That life without children will always feel like you’re just holding on.

But what if that story isn’t true?

In episode 172 of The “So Now What?” Podcast, Lana shares:

• The truth about the emotional aftermath of IVF and infertility that no one talks about.
  
  

• Her own story of navigating the grief of a chromosomally abnormal embryo (Trisomy 16) and what came after fertility treatments ended.
  
  

• Why the world’s attempts to “fix” you with adoption, donor eggs, or surrogacy often leave you feeling more invisible.
  
  

• How guilt, shame, and comparison can keep you frozen in time, and what it takes to finally move forward.
  
  

You'll hear how women inside her 12-week coaching program, go from surviving each day to actually loving their lives again. One client shares how she stopped obsessing over what people with kids were doing and started finding confidence, peace, and simple joys in her everyday life.

This episode invites you to imagine a summer, and a life, where:

• You wake up excited for your day, not dreading another reminder of what’s missing
  
  

• You reconnect with your body and stop treating it like it failed you
  
  

• You feel connected to your partner again, building a future that feels like yours
  
  

• You finally stop pretending to be okay, and actually are
  
  

If you’re ready to stop surviving and start living a life that feels meaningful and fulfilling—even without the children you always dreamed of—this episode will show you what’s possible.

Don’t let another summer pass you by in a fog of comparison and sadness.

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This is your first step toward creating a life that fits again...one that you love, even though it turned out differently than you expected.

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If you're a woman who went through fertility treatments like IVF or IUI and now find yourself childless after infertility, this episode will speak directly to your heart.

This week, we talk about a quiet kind of grief.
The grief carried by the man who never got to become a dad.

Whether it's your husband, partner, brother, or someone else close to you, Father’s Day can feel invisible for the men who once dreamed of fatherhood but never got to live it. And if you’ve been focused on your own pain after infertility, you might not have realized how much he’s grieving too.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• How infertility affects your partner even if he never talks about it
  
  

• Why the guilt you’ve been carrying is not yours to hold anymore
  
  

• Ways to show up for your partner on Father’s Day without it being complicated or performative
  
  

• A reminder that your relationship is still meaningful, even without children
  
  

💬 “I thought I was the only one grieving, but I wasn’t. He was just quieter about it.”

📖 Want more support around Father’s Day?
Chapter 25 of my bestselling book, So Now What?, is dedicated to helping you understand and support your partner when he didn’t get to become a biological dad.

If you’re wondering how to bring up this conversation, how to honor him, and how to let go of the guilt you’ve been carrying, this chapter is for you.

📚 You can read Chapter 1 and the foreword by Jody Day for free:
lanamanikowski.com/book

🎁 Free Resource
Download: The Top 27 Things People Say When You’re Childless (...and How to Respond)
Your script for those awkward or painful conversations.
lanamanikowski.com/thingspeoplesay

💬 Want help creating a life you love, even if you never became a mom?

Book your free 45-minute Thrive Call with me.
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📲 This week on Instagram, I’m sharing a series called “A Letter to My Childless Husband.”
Follow along at @lana.manikowski

If you’re childless not by choice, grieving after infertility, and want to feel more connected to your life and your partner, this episode will help you start.

Your story isn’t over.
It’s just beginning.

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Infertility & Goal Fatigue – What to Do When IVF Fails

If you’re childless after infertility and emotionally drained from years of chasing the dream of motherhood through IVF, I want you to know: you’re not alone. And what you’re feeling right now? It makes perfect sense.

You spent years setting goals—diagnosis, treatment plans, egg retrievals, embryo transfers, second opinions, supplements, side effects, losses… all in pursuit of the child you dreamed of.

But when IVF doesn’t work—and you find yourself childless after all of it—you’re left with a silent question that echoes through your mind:

Now what?

In this episode of The “So Now What?” Podcast, I’m sharing a deeply personal moment that stopped me in my tracks—one that reminded me how so many of us are living in a state of goal fatigue without even realizing it.

It all started with one innocent, thoughtful question from my 13-year-old nephew:
“Uncle Jack, what’s your goal for this year?”

And that moment led me to a massive realization—what if we’ve been asking the wrong question all along?

✅ Why infertility turns us into high-functioning goal-chasers
✅ What “goal fatigue” looks and feels like after IVF fails
✅ Why you might feel disconnected even after big wins at work or in life
✅ How I became a workaholic after IVF ended—and still felt empty
✅ The life-changing power of asking, “How do I want to feel?”
✅ What to do if you don’t even know how you want to feel anymore

This conversation is a gentle but powerful invitation to start living from the inside out—not chasing more goals to prove your worth, but learning to feel fulfilled by who you are right now, even without the children you hoped for.

✨ Book your free 45-minute Thrive Call HERE.
If you’ve been feeling stuck, lost, or unsure of how to move forward, I’ll help you reconnect with what matters to you. No pressure. No performance. Just a clear, hope-filled starting point for your next chapter.

📘 Ready to read the book that’s helping women just like you?
Check out my new bestselling book, So Now What?—created especially for women who are childless after infertility and looking for purpose, healing, and joy beyond motherhood.
Grab your copy or download a free preview here:
👉 www.lanamanikowski.com/book

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The Top 27 Things People Say When You’re Childless (...and How to Respond)
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You don’t have to chase the next big thing to feel proud of your life.
You don’t have to “move on” or pretend it doesn’t hurt.
You don’t have to keep pushing to prove that you matter.

You’re allowed to feel peace, love, purpose, and joy—even without a child.

So if IVF didn’t work and you’re wondering what now… this episode is your starting point.

Tune in.
And let’s begin—together.

If you are childless after infertility and wondering how to move forward without the future you dreamed of, this powerful conversation with Jody Day will meet you right where you are.

In this episode, we explore what it truly means to grieve childlessness and how embracing that grief can lead to deep healing, creativity, and purpose. Jody shares her personal story, her insights from years of working in the childless-not-by-choice space, and how grief can evolve from something you endure into something you grow through.

Inside this episode:

• Why grief is not an event but a skill
  
  

• What it means to experience disenfranchised grief as a childless woman
  
  

• How to feel seen in a society that avoids your pain
  
  

• What it takes to build your own support network as you age
  
  

• Why asking for help is a form of strength and connection
  
  

Unforgettable quotes from Jody Day:

• “Grief is not an event. It’s a skill.”
  
  

• “You’re not needy. You have needs. You’re human.”
  
  

• “We grieve that which we have loved.”
  
  

• “Grief is the emotion that allows us to let go of what was in order to embrace what’s next.”
  
  

• “I look back at the woman who tried so hard and say: You didn’t know more was available to you.”
  
  

Whether you are early in your grief or further down the path, this episode will remind you that you are not alone, and that you still have the power to build a life you love.

You are not too late. You are not alone.
You may be childless, but your story still matters. This episode will remind you that healing is possible, connection is available, and the life ahead of you still holds meaning.

Helpful links and resources:

🎧 Download: The Top 27 Things People Say When You’re Childless (...and How to Respond)

📞 Book a Free 45-Minute Thrive Call with Lana and create a personalized plan for living a fulfilling life without children

📘 Explore Jody Day’s work: Gateway Women

💌 Subscribe to her Substack: Gateway Elderwomen
📱 Follow Lana on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok

About Jody Day:

Jody is the English-Irish founder of Gateway Women, the world’s best-known support and advocacy network for childless women. Often described as the founder of the global childless movement, she is an integrative psychotherapist, two-time TEDx speaker, author, and thought leader. Her best-selling book Living the Life Unexpected: How to Find Hope, Meaning and a Fulfilling Future Without Children has become essential reading for women navigating life without motherhood.

Jody has been a World Childless Week Ambassador since 2017, was chosen as one of the BBC’s 100 Women in 2013, and named a UK Digital Woman of the Year in 2021. She is a former Fellow in Social Innovation at Cambridge Judge Business School and was a founding board member of the UK charity Ageing Without Children. Today, she writes the popular Substack Gateway Elderwomen, which explores aging and elderhood without motherhood, and is developing her ALTERKIN Project to create local mutual-aid communities for those aging without children.

If Mother’s Day felt hard for you, you’re not alone and this week’s episode of The “So Now What?” Podcast is especially for you.

You’ve probably spent years feeling like a party of one, moving through infertility and now life without children, not sure where to go to find connection or how to create it. Maybe you’ve told yourself you should be strong enough to figure this out alone. Maybe you’ve been hiding, thinking you’re the only one whose treatments didn’t end in motherhood.

In this powerful episode, you’ll hear why connection is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. You’ll be reminded that you are not weak for wanting support. You are human, and you were never meant to do this alone.

Lana opens up about her own journey, from getting an unexplained infertility diagnosis in 2011 and hiding her pain, to walking into silence despite being someone who always had “talks too much” on her report card. You’ll hear how that silence was one of the hardest parts, and why finding your voice again starts with connection.

Lana shares what inspired her to start this podcast in 2021, why she left her 20-year corporate career to coach full time, and how her Thrive After Infertility program and The Other’s Day Brunch were created to make sure women like you never have to navigate childlessness alone.

You’ll hear about:

- What it feels like when connection feels out of reach after infertility
- Why fertility clinics gave us science but not the soul-level support we needed
- What healing starts to look like when you stop hiding
- The incredible stories of women at The Other’s Day Brunch who showed up not knowing a soul and left with new friendships
- Simple ways you can say yes to connection today . even if it starts with a coffee invite or replying to a DM

This episode is a reminder that even if your life looks different than you planned, it can still be beautiful, because you are part of it.

✨ Resource Mentioned: Download *The Top 27 Things People Say When You’re Childless (and How to Respond) . Click here!

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If you're feeling overlooked, invisible, or emotionally raw as Mother's Day approaches, this episode was made for you.

In this heartfelt and healing conversation, Lana speaks directly to you — the woman who did everything she could to become a mom, but still doesn’t have the child she dreamed of. Whether this is your first Mother's Day since stopping fertility treatments or your fifteenth, this episode holds space for your grief, your story, and your desire to be seen in a world that rarely acknowledges women who are childless not by choice.

Lana shares why Mother's Day can be more than just a tough day — it can be a cultural reminder of the life you hoped for and the identity you never got to claim. She talks about the emotional toll of constant reminders — inbox ads, grocery store signs, brunch invites — and why it's not about jealousy or resentment, but a profound sadness that so few people recognize.

You’ll also hear:

• Why your grief is real and valid — even if others don’t understand it

• What disenfranchised grief is and why it’s so common for childless women

• How the Other’s Day Brunch was born out of this very longing to be seen

• Why healing doesn’t mean forgetting, and how grief and joy can coexist

• What to do this weekend if you're looking for a way to honor your story and take care of yourself
  
  

Whether you're quietly grieving at home or attending the 4th Annual Other’s Day Brunch in Chicago, this episode is your reminder that you are not alone.

🎧 Listen in if you’ve ever thought:

• “Why is this still so hard—even after all this time?”

• “Why does no one acknowledge the pain of being childless on Mother's Day?”

• “I don’t want pity. I just want to feel like I matter.”
  
  

💗 Join us in Chicago for the 4th Annual Other’s Day Brunch on May 10 — a space where you’ll be seen, honored, and celebrated:
👉 www.lanamanikowski.com/othersday

📞 Ready to stop feeling stuck and create a new vision for your future?
Book your free 45-minute Thrive Call with Lana and get personalized support for building a life that feels full, even without the children you dreamed of:
👉 https://calendly.com/lanamanikowski/strategy-session

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✔️ The Top 27 Things People Say When You’re Childless... and How to Respond with Confidence and Self-Respect:
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✨ You are not an afterthought. You are a whole woman with a full heart — even if it's still healing.
This Mother’s Day, take up space. You belong here.