The Session: How to Keep Dating Your Spouse-Even After Kids

Genesis 2:24 - Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Proverbs 18:22 - He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

· Be proactive and intentional in your marriage. Ask Jesus for help to be a successful marriage partner

· Rev up the five cylinder intimacy engine.

· Speak your spouse’s love language

Prioritize revving up your bedroom Olympics

· Change your pattern of initiating sex (Opening Ceremonies)

Hold hands more often

· Author Dr. Kory Floyd, wrote holding hands, hugging, and touching can release oxytocin causing a calming sensation. Studies show it’s also released during sexual orgasm. Additionally, physical affection reduces stress hormones – lowering daily levels of the stress hormone cortisol.

Allow tension to build

· Our brains experience more pleasure when the anticipation of the reward goes on for some time before we receive it. So take your time during foreplay, share fantasies, change locations, and make sex more romantic.

Separate sexual intimacy from routine

· Plan intimacy time and avoid talking about relationship problems and household chores in the bedroom. Sexual arousal plummets when we’re distracted and stressed.

Focus on affectionate touch

· This could be foot rubs, and back, rubs their express love

Maintain a sense of curiosity about sexual intimacy

· This can happen by breaking up the routine and try new things as sexual needs change

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