Have you ever found yourself holding onto someone who couldn’t fully open up to you?

Have you ever stayed in a relationship longer than you should have, hoping things would finally get better?

In today’s episode, I’m doing something a little different. My good friend Lisa Bilyeu flips the script and interviews me. Lisa is the co-founder of the billion-dollar company Quest Nutrition, founder of Women of Impact, and one of the most honest, fearless voices I know when it comes to growth, relationships, and empowerment. Together, we unpack some of the most misunderstood truths about relationships, from why we settle to how we can start making choices rooted in self-worth rather than fear.

We talk about how to stop crowd-sourcing your most important life decisions and why learning to listen to your own voice—without all the outside opinions—is one of the most healing things you can do. I share the real reason many of us struggle with being alone, how to break the cycle of chasing emotionally unavailable partners, and why true love should feel like peace—not anxiety dressed up as passion.

This episode is about so much more than dating. It’s about rebuilding your self-worth one choice at a time. I walk you through my 5 daily habits that help me build inner confidence, how to tell when you’re compromising in love versus losing yourself, and the honest questions you need to ask before deciding whether to stay—or walk away.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Stop Settling and Start Choosing From Confidence

How to Trust Your Intuition Without Second-Guessing Yourself

How to Break Free From the Fear of Being Alone

How to Create Peace In Order to Attract a Healthy Relationship

How to Know If You’re Compromising or Abandoning Yourself

How to Build Self-Worth With 5 Simple Daily Habits

I’m so grateful to Lisa for creating this space. I hope it brings you a deeper sense of direction, healing, and the reminder that you are always worth choosing—especially by yourself.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:21 The Three Reasons We Settle in Love

04:24 We All Have a Different Take on Love

06:36 The 7-Day Opinion Fast

13:15 Why Do We Keep Chasing the Wrong Person?

17:29 The Technique Men Use to Flirt with Women

23:44 The Difference Between Adapting vs. Diminishing Yourself in Relationships

28:39 This is the Biggest Reason for Breakups & How to Avoid It

31:50 Promoting a Healthy Relationship Through 'US' and 'WE'

34:52 Never Say these Two Words During An Argument

36:41 Is it Love or Just Lust?

38:24 Are You Comfortable or Complacent in Your Relationship?

45:24 Don't Let Your Insecurities Affect Your Current Relationship

48:06 The Three People You'll Fall With in Love in Your Life

53:29 Why Trust Should Be Given Easily

56:02 Fixing Someone Isn't Your Responsibility

01:00:39 Three Ways to Adapt to Your Partner's Personality

01:06:23 You Can't Live on Someone Else’s Timeline

01:12:29 This is the Type of Conversation You Should be Having With Your Partner

01:16:16 5 Daily Habits to Build Self-Worth

01:22:47 Best Nighttime Routine to Block Negative Thoughts

01:25:25 Jay's On Tour Update

Episode Resources:

Lisa Bilyeu | Website

Lisa Bilyeu | Instagram

Lisa Bilyeu | TikTok

Lisa Bilyeu | Facebook

Lisa Bilyeu | YouTube

Lisa Bilyeu | X

Lisa Bilyeu | LinkedIn

Women of Impact Podcast

Radical Confidence: 11 Lessons on How to Get the Relationship, Career, and Life You Want

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Do you believe our thoughts can shape our reality?

Have you ever had a moment where something you visualized came true?

In this special compilation episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty brings together a powerful lineup of voices—including Roxie Nafousi, Dr. Tara Swart, Big Sean, and Will Smith—to explore how manifestation can be truly transformative when rooted in clarity, alignment, and intentional action. Through candid conversations and personal reflections, Jay and his guests break down the mindset shifts and daily habits that turn dreams into reality.

This episode challenges common misconceptions, revealing that manifestation isn't about wishful thinking but about cultivating a deep sense of self-worth and purpose. Listeners will discover how to harness the power of visualization, overcome limiting beliefs, and align their actions with their deepest desires. The discussions emphasize the importance of consistency, gratitude, and resilience in the journey toward personal fulfillment.

Whether you're new to the concept or seeking to deepen your practice, this episode offers practical insights and inspiring stories to guide you on your path. It's a reminder that with the right mindset and intentional effort, you can create the life you've always envisioned.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Shift from Passive Wishing to Active Creating

How to Build Unshakable Self-Trust

How to Visualize and Embody Your Desired Outcomes

How to Stay Motivated and Bounce Back from Setbacks

How to Align Daily Actions with Long-Term Vision

Manifestation is more than a buzzword, it's a commitment to living with purpose and intention. Tune in to uncover the tools and perspectives that can help you turn your aspirations into tangible realities.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:10 This is Why You Attract Rejection and Negativity

04:40 Stop Manifesting the Wrong Things

08:19 Manifesting the Life You Want Isn't a Trend

12:06 Start Small to Grow Big Long Term

15:04 The Impact of Micro Changes to Make Your Life Better

17:57 Why is the Brain Wired to Avoid Risk?

24:45 How Acceptance Can Help You Move Forward

28:52 Stop Chasing, Start Attracting

30:29 Focus on the Things You Can Control

33:08 The Price of Having the Wrong Success Mindset

36:02 How to Live Your Life in Love and Service

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How well did you sleep last night?

Do you wake up feeling rested?

Today, Jay welcomes renowned neuroscientist, sleep expert, and bestselling author Dr. Matthew Walker to unpack the profound importance of sleep and how it shapes every facet of our health and wellbeing. Bestselling author of Why We Sleep, Dr. Matthew Walker brings scientific rigor and heartfelt clarity to one of the most misunderstood and underestimated aspects of our lives.

Matthew opens the discussion by challenging the myth of the 'eight-hour rule.' While the average adult does best with seven to nine hours of sleep, the focus quickly shifts beyond just duration. Instead, Matthew introduces a more holistic four part framework—Quantity, Quality, Regularity, and Timing, or QQRT. This framework highlights how sleep is not simply about how long one sleeps, but also how deeply, how consistently, and how well it aligns with our natural biological rhythms.

Jay and Matthew's conversation also tackles common disruptors of restorative sleep, including caffeine, alcohol, and excessive exposure to artificial light. Dr. Walker discusses how these elements can interfere with the brain’s ability to enter deep and REM sleep, the latter being especially important for emotional processing, hormonal regulation, and memory consolidation. Sleep, it turns out, influences far more than individual health.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Know If You’re Getting Enough Sleep

How to Improve Sleep Using the QQRT Formula

How to Align Your Sleep With Your Body’s Internal Clock

How to Avoid Waking Up Tired Every Morning

How to Optimize Your Evening Routine for Better Sleep

How to Fall Back Asleep After Waking Up at Night

How to Diagnose Sleep Apnea at Home

With scientific insight and practical wisdom, the episode paints a vivid picture of how sleep, when prioritized and protected, can serve as a catalyst for healing, clarity, and sustainable energy.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:12 The Four Metrics That Define Great Sleep

06:03 Can You Actually Change Your Sleep Cycle?

09:45 Why You Wake Up Tired—Even After a Full Night’s Sleep

14:29 What Sleep Apnea Really Is and Why It’s Often Missed

19:21 The Body-Wide Damage Caused by Sleep Loss

23:20 The Hormone That Increases Late-Night Cravings

28:42 Best Types of Food to Eat Before Bed

33:48 How Late-Night Eating Disrupts Your Sleep Rhythm

37:23 The Truth About Melatonin Supplements

40:47 Should You Give Melatonin To Your Children?

44:25 The Evolution of Sleeping Pills Explained

52:36 The Best Nighttime Routine For Optimal Sleep

55:07 Three Practical Tricks to Fall Back Asleep

01:04:58 What It Really Takes to Clear Caffeine From Your System

01:08:01 Surprising Health Benefits of Drinking Coffee

01:10:02 How Alcohol Quietly Ruins Your Sleep

01:13:06 Can Sleeping Well Actually Make you More Successful?

01:16:40 The Real Risks of Losing Just One Hour of Sleep

01:21:16 What Regular Sleep and a Digital Detox Can Do For Your Life

01:22:45 Why Weekend “Catch-Up” Sleep Doesn’t Work

01:24:09 The Overlooked Link Between Sleep and Mental Health

01:27:32 How Poor Sleep Fuels Loneliness and Disconnection

01:30:58 Why Self-Forgiveness Might Be the Ultimate Sleep Tool

Episode Resources:

Matthew Walker | Website

Matthew Walker | Instagram

Matthew Walker | LinkedIn

Matthew Walker | X

The Matt Walker Podcast

Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams

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