This morning, as much of the world unwraps gifts and celebrates, I wanted to bring you a special message of love and care. For many daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers, the holidays can be complicated.

Wherever and however you find yourselves today or in the days after, remember you belong here. All of you are in this community of women around the world who are navigating days like this and I, for sure, most definitely am in it with you, too.

• Bring it Tuesday Group for weekly encouragement and connection.
• Grab your spot on the Mayhem Daughters Community Waitlist
• Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

Wishing you a day filled with self-compassion and peace.

With love,
Heather (& Clark!)

Today, we’re talking about the impact of growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother, particularly around the expectations that were set for you — expectations that often left you feeling like you were never enough or constantly falling short.

If you've been holding yourself to standards that don't belong to you, this episode will help you recognize and release those old beliefs. I’ll walk you through how to begin letting go of the pressure of living up to your mother’s expectations and the path to reclaiming your own voice and your own values.

• Learn how to recognize when you are still operating under those old standards.

• Begin to trust your own needs, desires, and choices — without the weight of "shoulds" or guilt.

• Explore actionable steps to let go of perfectionism and reclaim your true self.

Mentioned in This Episode:

• Bring it to Group – Join a weekly peer support group for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers.

• Join the waitlist for our Mayhem Online Community.

• Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

In this episode, we explore the deep impact of covert narcissism and enmeshment on our sense of self-worth, boundaries, and relationships.

If you've ever felt unworthy, insecure, or lost in roles that don’t feel like your own, this conversation is for you. We dive into how these toxic dynamics can blur boundaries and disconnect us from our authentic selves, and how to begin reclaiming your worth.

Learn how to set healthy boundaries, heal from emotional manipulation, and trust yourself again.

Topics covered:

• Covert narcissism and enmeshment explained

• How these dynamics affect your self-worth and boundaries

• Practical steps to reclaim your true self

• Healing from trauma and finding self-empowerment

Resources mentioned:

• Who Am I After Trauma Journaling Prompts

• Bring it To Group: Join Tuesday Group

• Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

This episode is designed for daughters who are healing from narcissistic abuse, and I’m also inviting the loved ones of daughters to listen in, so you can better understand the struggles your loved one is facing and how to offer compassionate, effective support.

In this episode, I’m diving deep into the healing journey for daughters of narcissistic mothers—while also addressing the unique challenges faced by the people who love and support them.

Whether you’re a daughter navigating the complexities of healing or a supporter trying to understand how to show up in a way that truly helps, this episode is for you. I’ll be talking about how loved ones can show up with compassion and empathy, while still taking care of their own emotional needs.

Key topics include:

• Understanding narcissistic abuse and its long-lasting effects on daughters

• How supporters can offer meaningful support without enabling

• Why self-care and boundaries are crucial for both daughters and their supporters

• Practical tips for navigating tough conversations between daughters and their supporters

Whether you’re a daughter currently on your healing journey, or a loved one wanting to understand how best to be there for her, this episode offers insights, strategies, and encouragement to help both sides.

Bring it To Group: Tuesday Group for Daughters

Get my Two Cents: Mayhem Consultation

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the complex link between social anxiety and childhood trauma. If you’ve ever felt that the world of connection feels both deeply desired and overwhelmingly terrifying, you’re not alone. We’re unpacking why social anxiety can often feel like it’s rooted in a personal flaw but is, in reality, a protective response shaped by early experiences.

Consider joining us for Tuesday Group. (YES! YOU! REALLY!)

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

Sometimes, in your effort to heal and understand everything that has happened to you, healing takes over, overwhelms, causes you to flood and risks you becoming too much for the people who love you. Healing, well, it’s a lot and we don’t like to talk about this part.

Healing is often portrayed as a smooth journey, but the reality can be quite different. We discuss how intense emotions can surface and how they impact our relationships with others, especially when we feel overwhelmed.

Join us as we explore:

• Healing requires patience and self-compassion; it’s okay to take up space in your healing journey.

• Open, transparent communication is crucial in maintaining healthy relationships while navigating your healing process.

You don’t have to do it alone. Join Tuesday Group.

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things.

This week, we’re returning to the complexities that come with healing from family estrangement. We know the devastating impact of manipulative relationships with narcissistic and emotionally limited mothers. One of the hardest parts of this journey is acceptance and today, we’re giving that our focus.

Acceptance paves the way for healing and there are strategies you can use to make this process easier.

Join the Conversation:

• Consider this your standing invitation to join Tuesday Group

• If you want to share your Mayhem story, find me at: Heather@DaughtersNPD.com

• Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review if you enjoy the show!

Also mentioned:

Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

This week, we’re putting the spotlight on "Little t Trauma". We’re talking about how seemingly minor comments from your mothers can accumulate over time, affecting your self-worth and impacting your emotional well-being.

Little t traumas, or "papercuts," are not insignificant. Healing begins with recognition, boundary-setting, and reaffirming your self-worth.

Come find us in group

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things