In this episode, guest Emily Humpert returns to explore what it means to build emotional intimacy while carrying avoidant or disorganized attachment wounds.

Alongside host Adam Lane Smith, they unpack how emotional intimacy, vulnerability, and acceptance are the keys to real connection. If you've ever struggled to believe in love or feared that being truly seen would lead to rejection, this conversation offers insight, hope, and a practical path toward healing.

Topics Covered: 👉 The emotional cost of perfectionism and fear of not being enough 👉 How avoidant and quiet disorganized attachment styles affect relationships 👉 Why self-affirmation often fails for people with attachment wounds 👉 The difference between emotional safety and emotional intimacy 👉 How emotional intimacy helps rewire the brain and calm the nervous system 👉 Building trust through shared problem-solving and conflict resolution 👉 Understanding the role of vasopressin in long-term emotional bonding 👉 Recognizing freeze responses as survival strategies, not flaws 👉 What emotionally safe leadership looks like in romantic partnerships 👉 How to find people capable of emotional intimacy and deep connection

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here: https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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In this episode of I Wish You Knew, Adam Lane Smith sits down with Chad and Brittany to explore why love alone isn’t enough to sustain a relationship.

Whether you’re in a struggling relationship or trying to understand your partner better, this conversation will challenge the way you see emotional safety, communication, and connection.

Topics Covered: 👉 What led to the breakup: stress, avoidance, and nervous system overload 👉 How attachment theory began to shift their mindset 👉 Adam’s weekly check-in method for emotionally healthy relationships 👉 The rule of not withholding known feelings or concerns 👉 Why text communication helps anxious or overwhelmed partners 👉 How to rebuild trust through consistent positive experiences 👉 The COO/CEO model of emotional teamwork in relationships 👉 What to do when you don’t know how to fix a problem 👉 The importance of asking deeper, more vulnerable questions 👉 Building a legacy of emotional safety for your kids and grandkids 👉 Recognizing and reporting emotional unsafety as a core role in relationships

If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'STOP Doing These 3 Things If You Want Him to Commit'. Watch here: https://youtu.be/vjVI7qgb2G4

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In this conversation, Adam welcomes Margarita Nazarenko, a viral voice of tough love on relationships, for a deep, honest dialogue about anxious attachment, emotional patterns, and why so many women end up chasing emotionally unavailable men. Margarita offers clarity, accountability, and practical wisdom to break the cycle of toxic relationships and build something truly healthy.

Topics Covered: 👉 Why women with anxious attachment chase emotionally unavailable men 👉 The damage of mothering men and the false thrill of romantic pursuit 👉 How childhood wounds and abandonment issues shape relationship patterns 👉 The long term impact of emotionally absent fathers on children 👉 How to stop repeating generational pain through conscious healing 👉 Why secure, available men are often overlooked by anxious women 👉 A practical inner child healing practice to rewire your attachment style 👉 The difference between genuine connection and trauma bonds 👉 How to protect your energy, value, and future as a woman 👉 Why waiting to be chosen doesn’t make you weak, it makes you wise

You deserve to be chosen, cherished, and safe, not constantly chasing love that won’t stay. If this episode resonated, don’t forget to subscribe and share it with someone who needs to hear this truth. More raw and transformative conversations coming soon.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’ https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc

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Margarita Nazarenko:

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