In this episode of Give It To Me Bi, we tackle the nuanced experiences of bisexual people in same-gender relationships. Have you ever felt "not straight enough to be bi"? For many bi+ individuals, being in a queer-presenting or same-gender relationship often leads to being mistaken as gay or lesbian, resulting in unique challenges and privileges.

We unpack what it means to navigate the world as a bi person in a same-gender relationship, the dynamics of "gay-passing" privilege, and how these intersections shape identity, community, and visibility. We also explore how to embrace your bisexuality fully, foster meaningful connections, and address feelings of imposter syndrome within the LGBTQIA+ community.

Highlights include:

• Navigating "gay-passing" privilege and the visibility struggle in same-gender relationships
• Overcoming internalised biphobia and toxic masculinity in forming same-sex platonic friendships
• Dating in same-sex circles as a bisexual person—unique joys, challenges, and navigating spaces
• How your partner can support your visibility and identity

Plus, we dive into listener questions and comments, including a video submission on why it's important to clarify "gay-passing" relationships, and explore how to find pride in your unique place in the queer spectrum.

This is a can't-miss episode for anyone navigating identity, visibility, and community as a bisexual person in same-gender relationships.

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In this episode, Chad Barnier and Steve Spencer delve into the complexities of bisexuality in different-gender relationships. They tackle the challenges of societal perceptions, biphobia, and "straight-passing privilege." Through personal anecdotes and insights from the bi+ community, the hosts explore the need for visibility, validation, and joy in bisexual identities. Together, they confront myths, celebrate positive representations, and offer practical resources for bisexual individuals and their allies.

• The Myth of Straight-Passing Privilege: The misconception that bisexuals in different-gender relationships have an advantage is debunked with personal insights and research data.
• Reframing the Narrative: Shifting the focus from doom and gloom to joy and thriving in bi+ relationships.
• Community Insights: Contributions from the Give It To Me Bi Facebook group highlight real-life experiences and challenges.
• Partner Support: Navigating the journey of coming out in a relationship, with an emphasis on communication and allyship.
• The Role of Communication: How vulnerability and open dialogue can strengthen relationships and challenge stereotypes.
• Intersection with Mental Health: The impact of erasure and exclusion on bisexual individuals' mental health.
• Resources for Allies: Tools and information to help allies support their bisexual loved ones effectively.

Books Mentioned:

• For the Love of Men by Liz Plank
• The Will to Change by Bell Hooks

Podcasts Mentioned:

• The Man Enough Podcast

Articles and Videos:

• Do Bisexuals Have Access to Straight Privilege? by Jamie Arpin-Ricci
• Passing Bi: Bi+ People in "Straight-Facing" Relationships (YouTube)

Helpful Resources:

• How to Support Someone Who Has Recently Come Out as Bisexual

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In this World AIDS Day special, Chad and Steve deliver an open, heartfelt, and deeply informative conversation about HIV and AIDS. Steve shares his personal journey as a person living with HIV, exploring the importance of testing, treatment, and education. We dive into groundbreaking medical advancements, including the U=U (Undetectable Equals Untransmittable) campaign and PrEP, while also tackling stigma and the historical impact of the HIV/AIDS crisis on the LGBTQ+ community. This episode is packed with life-changing insights, resources, and a message of hope for ending the HIV epidemic.

• World AIDS Day Themes: Discussion of the global theme "Take the Rights Path" and Australia's "It Starts With Me," highlighting rights-based approaches to ending the HIV epidemic.
• U=U Explained: Steve shares his experience of achieving an undetectable viral load through antiretroviral treatment, emphasising that undetectable equals untransmittable.
• HIV Testing Advocacy: The importance of regular testing, with a shoutout to free, at-home HIV test kits available at hivtest.au.
• Breaking Stigma: Tackling misconceptions and societal judgment faced by people living with HIV, especially in the bi+ community.
• PrEP and Prevention: An introduction to pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), its effectiveness, and how it empowers individuals to prevent HIV transmission.
• Personal Stories: Steve opens up about his diagnosis journey, sharing how community support and modern medicine transformed his outlook on life.
• Historical Context: Reflecting on the devastating impact of the HIV/AIDS crisis and the resilience of the queer community.

• HIV Self-Testing Kits: hivtest.au
• PrEP Access Now: pan.org.au
• BiSHH Study: bishhstudy.com
• Documentary: How to Survive a Plague (2012)
• Bi Positive Advocacy Network: bipan@napwha.org.au

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