What happens when a pastor’s kid becomes a father and realizes he’s repeating the same silent expectations he grew up under? In this powerful conversation, Joe Bachmeyer, founder of You Matter Dad, opens up about emotional awareness, healing from internal chaos, and what it really means to be present as a father.

🎙️ In this episode, Joe shares:

• How growing up as a “functional only-child” shaped his parenting
• The pressure of silent expectations placed on pastors' kids—and how that carried into his fatherhood
• His battle with emotional regulation, tone, and control
• Why curiosity is more powerful than control in parenting
• The three core values he’s intentionally instilling in his kids: gratefulness, helpfulness, and emotional presence
• The surprising healing that happens when dads “get all in” with what their kids love

This is a conversation for every dad who's trying to show up better—not perfectly—but with purpose.

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https://www.youtube.com/ ⁨@youmatterdad⁩

https://www.tiktok.com/ ⁨@youmatterdad⁩

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100088978793193

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What happens when a father builds his home on generations of faith, a small family farm, and a vision for raising kids who are spiritually strong and practically wise?

In this episode, Chad—husband, father of five, and multi-generational Christian—shares how he’s building a countercultural home rooted in daily family devotions, intentional parenting, homeschooling, and entrepreneurial training. Chad walks through how his grandfather left a legacy of faith, how his family balances truth and grace in parenting, and why he’s training his kids to live life like responsible adults—by age 16.

He also dives into practical rhythms: how his family runs evening Bible time, how they plan their week, how his kids learn to run small businesses (like face painting and puppy breeding!), and why he views smartphones as a spiritual battlefield.

This is a must-listen for any father who wants to raise grounded, godly kids in a chaotic world.

Books for further reading mentioned in episode: The Family Economy by Rory Groves - https://amzn.to/4lvMYr6

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🎙️ Summary What if the key to raising faithful, resilient children is as simple—and as hard—as returning to reality? In this episode of Father and Friend, Father Peter Kavanaugh and Educator Benjamin Lyda explore how fathers can reclaim family, work, and worship as sacred acts.

🌱 Episode Overview In a culture of distraction, disconnection, and digital overload, this conversation dives deep into the pursuit of a meaningful family life. Father Peter shares how his family’s 40-acre Texas farm has become a classroom of virtue, work, and wonder—where imagination grows in the dirt and real education begins at the dinner table. Benjamin Lyda brings an educator’s insight into how fathers can form their children through leisure, liturgy, and shared life.

Together, they challenge the idea that parenting is about preparing kids for the “real world” and instead suggest that fathers should invite their children into reality through worship, suffering, beauty, and joy.

Books for further reading mentioned in episode:

The Family Economy by Rory Groves - https://amzn.to/4lvMYr6

Leisure: The Basis Of Culture By Josef Pieper - https://amzn.to/4kjgCPv

The Death Of Christian Culture by John Senior - https://amzn.to/3Gk9gxb

Connect with Father Peter and the Orthodox Church at https://www.saintbenedictorthodox.com/

Connect with Benjamin Lyda at https://scriptoriumwriting.com

📣 Call to Action - If this episode challenged or inspired you, please like, subscribe, and share it with a fellow father. Drop a comment about your own family rituals or efforts to reconnect with reality—we’d love to hear from you.

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