In a media landscape obsessed with spectacle, DL (down-low) men are often punchlines, predators, or shadows. But what if we stopped moralizing and started listening?

In this episode, Ross peels back the layers of DL discourse to explore the survival strategies behind the silence. Through the story of Adam, a bisexual man from Ghana denied asylum in the UK, and his own reflections growing up bisexual in Los Angeles, Ross examines how fear, safety, and structural oppression shape disclosure.

With sharp clarity and deep compassion, It exposes how bi+ men of color often become collateral damage in conversations not actually about them.

We map out common concerns, especially from women, around intimacy and betrayal, and invite everyone into a more honest, informed dialogue.

Whether you're DL, closeted, bi, pan, queer, questioning, or a witness to the growth and transformation of others navigating society, this episode honors your survival and your right to choose.

Adam's Story referenced in the episode

https://www.rainbowmigration.org.uk/stories/adams-story/

What happens when “I love you” is answered with a plate of perfectly sliced pears? In this tender, laugh‑out‑loud episode, Ross sits down with Chinese‑Canadian spoken‑word powerhouse Anto Chan to trace the messy alchemy that turns generational pain into punchlines.

Together they unpack:

• ​Ancestral wounds, intergenerational trauma, and the model‑minority cage
• ​Queerness, masculinity, and why love languages can feel like different dialects
• ​Art as a mentor—how Anto’s poems run five years ahead of his healed perspective
• ​Transforming grief into stand‑up comedy without erasing the ache
• ​The radical courage of saying “I love you” first (even if the reply is fruit)
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This conversation is equal parts heart‑hug and gut‑check, a soft yet radical invitation to speak your truth, risk being seen, and dare to find comedy in the cracks of sorrow.

If you’ve ever wondered how to reunite with your inner child, honor your ancestors, or laugh while the room shakes, press play!

Anto Chan on IG

Innergenerational Website

In this gentle guided meditation, listeners are invited to reconnect with yourself as a living archive, a breathing, evolving, record of memory, emotion, and becoming.

Through a somatic journey of the body and a inner visualization, you’ll explore the stories stored in your chest, shoulders, stomach, throat, and beyond. You’ll step inside a quiet room within, a sacred inner archive, where a moment awaits: the opportunity to witness and embrace a forgotten version of yourself with curiosity and care.

This meditation is for anyone navigating identity, healing, or transformation. No need to fix or perform, only to return to a truth already living inside you.

Affirmation:

“I am a living archive. Layered. Sacred. Whole.
I honor every version of me and choose to continue living my story.”