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This Is How Your Marriage Ends

A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships

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This Is How Your Marriage Ends

By: Matthew Fray
Narrated by: Rob Shapiro
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About this listen

Good people can be bad partners.

One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a phone-in-therapist's advice to 'journal his feelings', Matthew Fray started a blog. On it, he tried to piece together how his ex-wife went from the college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole. It turns out that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a shitty husband.

As he shared raw, uncomfortable and darkly humorous stories about the lessons he'd learned from his failed marriage, Matthew started to gain a following. Then he wrote a post titled 'She Divorced Me Because I Left the Dishes by the Sink'—it went viral and was read over four million times.

This Is How Your Marriage Ends offers immediately actionable advice to help listeners identify toxic behaviour patterns in their own lives and break them out of the cycles of dysfunction that ruin relationships. Good people can be bad partners—this book is how you change that.

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Critic reviews

"This Is How Your Marriage Ends is the book we have been waiting for—an entertaining, honest and truly practical guide for saving our relationships." (Justin Baldoni, best-selling author of Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity)

"Funny and poignant...a beautiful exposition on partnerships, love and unpaid labour." (Eve Rodsky, New York Times best-selling author of Fair Play)
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Matthew , THANK YOU . for a few years I have felt like I was screaming to my husband for help and to explain my hurt , but to him no sound was coming out. we have listened to your book and it's completely got through to him. all my hurt is now feeling validated and I feel listened to and loved for the first time in years. if he keeps this new mindset and behaviour following your book consistently, then you have 100 percent saved our marriage and kept a happy home for our now 6 month old daughter. so grateful ! 10/10

I think this has saved my marriage !

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This is an insightful and uncomfortable read, and I recommend that every long term couple reads it. Here's hoping in string enough to take the advice and put it into practice! I'll probably read it again in a year or so to see how I'm doing.

Every married person should read this

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I hope my husband listens to this book. It takes what woman think but puts in a male language. The amount of times I have tried to explain my loneliness & frustrations to husband without success!

Every man should listen before marriage

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Even if your marriage is not in trouble, make sure to read this as it will definitely help you how to validate and acknowledge your spouse which is very important.
One of the best book out there,so glad I came across it in audible!

Every married couple should read this!

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Honest, challenging, and insightful information told in an easy to listen to story tale. Well worth a listen for anyone married or thinking about getting married.

Really thought provoking and unexpectedly uplifting

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The book skews very heavily towards men who The author describes some common relationship problems and seems to genuinely understand why women check out of relationships.

A good listen

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It is amazing hearing from a male perspective.
I cried while I listened. Having memories of my own marriage collapse. There is real insight in this book but only if the man reads it too.

This is how my marriage ended

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if you want to figure out your part as a man in why your marriage is failing, this an excellent place to start.

if you want to figure out your part as a man in why your marriage is failing, this an excellent place to start

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As someone from the UK, the American narrator was off-putting throughout and whiney. The story, while having some useful examples of developing empathy, from a males perspective, did not show at all - how his wife contributed to the end of the marriage.
Obviously it is written from his perspective, after his divorce, but it takes two to end a relationship and as a female who's male partner just ended a 21 yr cohabiting relationship and we have a young child, I know there is stuff I've done wrong but he has too! I'm annoyed that I bought both the Kindle book and Audible version. I'd rather have just got the Kindle to avoid the narrator, but it's finding time to read when you're a parent and are heartbroken, and it's easier to listen on the drive to and from work. I'd give it a go on Kindle but avoid this audio version unless you're American. I'd also use it as part of a wider arsenal of material for self help.

A bit repetitive with some unrelatable scenarios.

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Witters at length about things that, whilst annoying, don’t cause women to instigate divorce because 95% of the time the cause is the antics of men and their favourite body part. He eventually comes clean in chapter 7 when he lists the dire fate that awaits women who fail to listen sufficiently whilst big Matt sets out the demands of little Matt. Are men ever going to take real responsibility for themselves. Not this millennium it seems.

Delusional

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