
Far From The Tree
A Dozen Kinds of Love
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Narrated by:
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Andrew Solomon
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By:
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Andrew Solomon
About this listen
From the National Book Award–winning author of The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression comes a monumental new work, a decade in the writing, about family.
In Far from the Tree, Andrew Solomon tells the stories of parents who not only learn to deal with their exceptional children but also find profound meaning in doing so.
Solomon’s startling proposition is that diversity is what unites us all. He writes about families coping with deafness, dwarfism, Down syndrome, autism, schizophrenia, multiple severe disabilities, with children who are prodigies, who are conceived in rape, who become criminals, who are transgender. While each of these characteristics is potentially isolating, the experience of difference within families is universal, as are the triumphs of love Solomon documents in every chapter.
All parenting turns on a crucial question: to what extent parents should accept their children for who they are, and to what extent they should help them become their best selves. Drawing on forty thousand pages of interview transcripts with more than three hundred families, Solomon mines the eloquence of ordinary people facing extreme challenges. Whether considering prenatal screening for genetic disorders, cochlear implants for the deaf, or gender reassignment surgery for transgender people, Solomon narrates a universal struggle toward compassion.
Many families grow closer through caring for a challenging child; most discover supportive communities of others similarly affected; some are inspired to become advocates and activists, celebrating the very conditions they once feared. Woven into their courageous and affirming stories is Solomon’s journey to accepting his own identity, which culminated in his midlife decision, influenced by this research, to become a parent.
Elegantly reported by a spectacularly original thinker, Far from the Tree explores themes of generosity, acceptance, and tolerance—all rooted in the insight that love can transcend every prejudice. This crucial and revelatory book expands our definition of what it is to be human.
©2012 Andrew Solomon (P)2014 Audible, LtdA life changing book.
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A lengthy but worthy exploration
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A must read
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In the first half of the book, I felt the author concentrated primarily on a narrow range of narratives, predominantly featuring individuals from affluent and influential backgrounds. While this focus initially seemed limiting, it helped highlight the universal nature of adversity—showing that we are all, at times, at a loss for how to cope with life's challenges. However, I did find this emphasis somewhat puzzling.
As the book progressed and the author shifted to discuss stories related to criminality, he introduced characters from disadvantaged backgrounds, which felt oddly refreshing.
I was also surprised that the most harrowing chapter turned out to be the one dealing with the realities of autism. I must admit that I had a distorted perception of this condition prior to reading this book.
I was however left wondering about the absence of discussions surrounding homosexuality. The author mentions transgenderism but neglects to include a broader conversation about LGBTQ+ experiences, which seems like a missed opportunity considering his personal background.
An important book
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The section on trans gender has been truly life changing. I have a 13 year old granddaughter who has for some years been expressing the wish to be known as a boy. Whilst thinking I was being supportive of ‘her’, and reassuring’her’ that nothing could change the live and pride I feel, I now realise that I was just paying lip service and not respecting his right to be heard. After long and sometimes painful conversations with him, I can now confidently think of him as my grandson and use the right pronouns, and not worry so much about his future but be open to whatever it may bring. This has encouraged other family members to do the same, and his joy in being acknowledged is so wonderful to behold.
As I said, life changing.
But this audible was so much more than just that. It was so enlightened and informative, and so easy to listen to that I couldn’t wait to find the time to hear more. There was nothing that I didn’t like about it.
I am now going to purchase the book, to delve into the various chapters again and again.
The authors sharing of his own experiences was a book all on its own, never over intrusive but enhanced of the overall pleasure of my learning curve.
Life changing listening for any parent, grandparent or perhaps any thoughtful human being.
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Amazing. Must read for any parent.
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Would you listen to Far From The Tree again? Why?
Yes absolutely. It's a great reminder of what it is to be human!What did you like best about this story?
I'm only half way through the book but the accounts of the individuals and their families living with 'difference' brings me to tears every time I listen. They are often extraordinary and inspiring and always incredibly emotive.I feel my eyes are more open to the triumphs and difficulties of people all around me. If a book can lend itself to the fostering of empathy, then this is such a book.
Have you listened to any of Andrew Solomon’s other performances? How does this one compare?
This is the first.Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?
All of it. I'm not directly connected to any of the challenging scenarios he is describing but so far I've been drawn deeply into each of them.Emotive
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given me a huge insight.
Everyone should read this book
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A masterpiece on identity and compassion
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A book about parental love in different colours.
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